We are in the process of adding a handicapped bathroom for my husband. We are purchasing a Toto Washlet. I was wondering if anybody can tell me which is the better choice - a separate remote or the bulky looking one that is attached. Seems like it could get in the way. I am so afraid of making mistakes after this is all finished. Also I was just going to have a hand held shower on a 36" slide bar installed. Should I also have them put in a regular shower head with a diverter? Any thoughts or comments would be greatly appreciated.