Debbie53
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- Joined
- Aug 16, 2008
- Messages
- 86
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 08/2008
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- US
- State
- CO
- City
- Greeley
HEllo everyone,
My dad called me yesterday morning, saying we need to write his obituary, look at his will, that he won't be able to stay in his assisted living place more than another day or two. Apparently, during the night, he couldn't talk at all, and he can't stand by himself. He just got accepted to Hospice a couple of days ago, and their people all seem great so far. He's gone downhill SO fast, and it kills me because he's been SO independent, upbeat, and engaged with the world - always. He was always the healthy one of the family, the good-humor man, the Masters Track athlete! I know he's 87, he's been lucky, but somehow hearing that over and over does not help. I don't have a place in my psyche for him being sad, terrified, emaciated. Losing my mom 3 months ago was, of course, a terrible blow. I'd say he was 50% stronger before that happened.:shock:
My dad called me yesterday morning, saying we need to write his obituary, look at his will, that he won't be able to stay in his assisted living place more than another day or two. Apparently, during the night, he couldn't talk at all, and he can't stand by himself. He just got accepted to Hospice a couple of days ago, and their people all seem great so far. He's gone downhill SO fast, and it kills me because he's been SO independent, upbeat, and engaged with the world - always. He was always the healthy one of the family, the good-humor man, the Masters Track athlete! I know he's 87, he's been lucky, but somehow hearing that over and over does not help. I don't have a place in my psyche for him being sad, terrified, emaciated. Losing my mom 3 months ago was, of course, a terrible blow. I'd say he was 50% stronger before that happened.:shock: