So my week's been fun so far.
I've decided to not move in with my dad, as my uncle, who lives in the same home, recently returned to drinking and had demonstrated quite clearly that he does not respect my physical boundaries, my condition, or my decision on my gender/transition (walked up to me, punched me in the shoulder, called me "Josh" and refused to correct himself after I told him I was Joanna). I have a lot of past trauma with alcoholics and my uncle is one of those people who perpetuated it when I was younger. I can't feel safe in a home where he, at any time, can start drinking and make me feel unsafe and unwelcome. He doesn't work (On SSDI) and I would be home with him, alone, all day while my dad was working and I feel frightened by that concept. My dad also started to ask me to pay more and more to live there, despite me telling him that I'm not working anymore, and even with short-term disability and SSDI funds will be tight as ALS can be quite expensive and neither have yet to be approved and I'm just floating on my savings right now. Ultimately, I feel like I was being looked at as a source of economy for the home... not a daughter/niece with a terminal illness needing a parent to lean on.
Good news, when I talked to my Brother, and his wife, with which I am currently living, stood right up and said they would keep me there as originally planned and are stepping up in their support and understanding. They're gonna come with me to my next ALS clinic and are working with me step by step as this progresses. No one drinks, smokes, or does drugs in this home, it's a safe place and yes, while there may be 5 kids going to school, I would rather take my chances of getting sick, than living daily in fear of my own physical wellbeing. I have my own room, so if folks start to get sick, I can Isolate myself, and if I get sick, I know my family here will take care of me and get me to the hospital if needed. Besides, with my dad working his job and my uncle running around bars, I don't think I would be any safer from illness with them either.
So, good news, and bad news altogether, but progress is being made!