Hi 2023 SM, this was exactly the onset my husband had. He was diagnosed in Feb. 2020. For the first several months his only severe disability was trouble using his hands or arms (which as you note is quite severe in terms of impact on daily life). There were two things that made a big difference in independence, a feeding robot and voice controls on iPhone and iPad.
Our ALS Association loaned us an Obi, which is an absolute miracle robot that brings food to your mouth. You can find it online at meetobi dot com. Not trying to advertise, but I don't know of anything else like it and it's been a huge benefit to Steve's ability to feel a degree of independence at mealtime. It's expensive but we were lucky our ALSA had some to loan. If yours doesn't maybe you could ask them about it - it would be helpful for most PALS at some point, I think, so if they operate a loaner closet maybe they'd be willing to invest in one. We are about to return ours to ALSA because Steve is now on a feeding tube, but he used it regularly for almost two years, including at restaurants.
The other very important thing was learning to use voice control to operate his phone and iPad. You can call the Apple support line and they'll walk you through it. I am sure Android must have similar features but I'm not familiar with them.
One other thing was that we got a home assistant (Alexa or Google Home type thing) and put speakers in most of our rooms, plus a hub in the kitchen, and got some smart light bulbs, etc. Steve could turn on lights by voice, call from room to room (which became more important as his mobility decreased), play music, make phone calls, etc., using voice commands.
Best of luck navigating all this. It's great you're being so proactive to help your PALS, it'll make a big difference to her quality of life.
