coffeegirl
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- Jul 10, 2008
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- Friend was DX
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- CA
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- Ontario
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- Toronto
Hi All,
I was searching on the net last night for some type of support network and couln't be happier that I found this site.
A very close friend of mine's father has had ALS for just over a year now, and the decline is getting worse. He is now fully confined to a wheelchair, no longer able to walk or use his hands.
He is fine in himself, and is such a positive person considering. I am very close to his family and it breaks my heart to see such a wonderful and close knit family go through such a terrible disease.
I don't want to sound selfish, but like most people going through this, it seems that everyone takes it differently. He doesn't talk to me about the situation, and the only time I can associate myself with how his father is doing is when we are over at his parents house. He gets angry when I try to talk about it, and when it does come up in conversation, he tells me to stop talking...its a really touchy subject and he doesn't want to talk about it...ever. I want to be supportive and show him how much I really care about what is happening in his life, but he continually shuts me out.
The problem I am having is that it is really concerning me with the way he is dealing with it. I don't know what to say or do that is right. Everything I try to do seems to go the other way, so when he does talk about it...I just don't say anything back... I just don't know how to deal with this and I need some advice...
I was searching on the net last night for some type of support network and couln't be happier that I found this site.
A very close friend of mine's father has had ALS for just over a year now, and the decline is getting worse. He is now fully confined to a wheelchair, no longer able to walk or use his hands.
He is fine in himself, and is such a positive person considering. I am very close to his family and it breaks my heart to see such a wonderful and close knit family go through such a terrible disease.
I don't want to sound selfish, but like most people going through this, it seems that everyone takes it differently. He doesn't talk to me about the situation, and the only time I can associate myself with how his father is doing is when we are over at his parents house. He gets angry when I try to talk about it, and when it does come up in conversation, he tells me to stop talking...its a really touchy subject and he doesn't want to talk about it...ever. I want to be supportive and show him how much I really care about what is happening in his life, but he continually shuts me out.
The problem I am having is that it is really concerning me with the way he is dealing with it. I don't know what to say or do that is right. Everything I try to do seems to go the other way, so when he does talk about it...I just don't say anything back... I just don't know how to deal with this and I need some advice...