wewillbeatthis
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Hello Everyone,
Well, this weekend is the big one.
Tomorrow we are moving dad in. For the most part he seems excited. However, at the same moment he is getting moody... I think this is because he is not real happy to be moving in with his daughter and future son-in-law... To be honest he is very independent. His walking is and has been the major issue now for about 3 years. A cain for short distance is fine and a carriage or something to stable himself for long distances he is what gets him through the days.
I have spoken of this before. He cooks for himself, cleans, works, drives, goes to the stores as long as a carriage is available. This is great and I pray to GOD that this is what it stays like for years and years to come. This is not to say that he does not have bad days. Cause when he is stressed and just not having a great day he is tired, speaks a little slow, walks a bit worse, and just overall not in a great mood. I can deal with this and so can my hubby. Most of all he has learned to deal with these things better and better. However, this is what I am nervous of.
My hubby seems to think that I make dad nervous because he feels he always has to be well when around me. Walking well, speaking well, eating well, sleeping well, and just over all well or else I will nag him and ask what is wrong. I disagree but just in case this is the case what do I do? How do I just let him be. I am so scared that when living with us I am going to notice that in the middle of the night when getting up to go into the bathroom it is hard for him to get around cause he is tired, it is dark, and that it is hard to walk without shoes and therefore I am scared he can fall. I guess what I am asking is how do we make dad feel great that he is living with us and to make him realize that there is no reason to be nervous, feel bad, feel uncomfortable...
I am his little girl in his eyes and he should be taking care of me not the opposite. I tell him all the time that dad I am not taking care of you. We are having you move in with us cause this way you can be stress free not worrying about carrying groceries up 20 stairs, and going up and down to do laundry, not being alone cause when you live alone you tend to dwell. Also we want to make sure we can keep those legs loss and do the ROM's with him each night the doctor said the more you do this the more loose they will be and the more walking he can do without getting tired. Anyone agree with this?
Thanks in advance for your feedback and thanks for letting me vent... I am hopefull that we will all beat this ALS...
Well, this weekend is the big one.
Tomorrow we are moving dad in. For the most part he seems excited. However, at the same moment he is getting moody... I think this is because he is not real happy to be moving in with his daughter and future son-in-law... To be honest he is very independent. His walking is and has been the major issue now for about 3 years. A cain for short distance is fine and a carriage or something to stable himself for long distances he is what gets him through the days.
I have spoken of this before. He cooks for himself, cleans, works, drives, goes to the stores as long as a carriage is available. This is great and I pray to GOD that this is what it stays like for years and years to come. This is not to say that he does not have bad days. Cause when he is stressed and just not having a great day he is tired, speaks a little slow, walks a bit worse, and just overall not in a great mood. I can deal with this and so can my hubby. Most of all he has learned to deal with these things better and better. However, this is what I am nervous of.
My hubby seems to think that I make dad nervous because he feels he always has to be well when around me. Walking well, speaking well, eating well, sleeping well, and just over all well or else I will nag him and ask what is wrong. I disagree but just in case this is the case what do I do? How do I just let him be. I am so scared that when living with us I am going to notice that in the middle of the night when getting up to go into the bathroom it is hard for him to get around cause he is tired, it is dark, and that it is hard to walk without shoes and therefore I am scared he can fall. I guess what I am asking is how do we make dad feel great that he is living with us and to make him realize that there is no reason to be nervous, feel bad, feel uncomfortable...
I am his little girl in his eyes and he should be taking care of me not the opposite. I tell him all the time that dad I am not taking care of you. We are having you move in with us cause this way you can be stress free not worrying about carrying groceries up 20 stairs, and going up and down to do laundry, not being alone cause when you live alone you tend to dwell. Also we want to make sure we can keep those legs loss and do the ROM's with him each night the doctor said the more you do this the more loose they will be and the more walking he can do without getting tired. Anyone agree with this?
Thanks in advance for your feedback and thanks for letting me vent... I am hopefull that we will all beat this ALS...