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msde302

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CALS
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US
State
MN
City
St. Paul
This morning, after a long journey with ALS, my mom, Lynn Gavin passed away.

At about 6:30 this morning, she asked for an Ativan. And then she asked for morphine, but she had trouble taking it, so she said to forget it. She asked me to turn up the t.v. And then before I lay back down on the air mattress I'd been sleeping on in her room, checked to see that she was comfortable. I woke up nearly three hours later. Knowing something way wrong.

I got up, went to my mom and saw that she had passed. I spent some time with her, washing, dressing and cleaning up the room.

Strangely, our hospice nurse never came. I was sort of under the impression that they came after the patient had passed. Of course, within a half hour someone was here picking up her bi-pap. But my friends have been great. Eight of them took me to a lovely dinner tonight and made sure I had enough wine.

I'm heartbroken. It felt like a scene from a movie, sitting with her, talking to her even though I knew she was gone. I want to thank all of you for your kindness and thoughts over the course of my mom's illness. It means so much to me.

Kaija
 

sharonca

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Joined
Nov 27, 2007
Messages
423
Reason
PALS
Diagnosis
12/2007
Country
US
State
CA
City
Mentone
I am so sorry for your loss.

Sharonca
 

fiddleplayer51

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Joined
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Messages
337
Reason
CALS
Diagnosis
03/2008
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US
State
VA
City
Harrisonburg
Kaija,
I'm so sorry about the passing of your mother. Even though you knew the end would come, you can never be prepared for the reality of it. Absolutely nothing can prepare you for that.
Early morning is such a beautiful and peaceful time to die, and I think it's easier to handle a loved one's passing in the morning. You're rested and the busyness and noise of the day hasn't started yet. (Both my parents died in the early morning.)
I hope you can feel some peace as the days and weeks go by. You'll have the remembrance of your mother with the people you know, and then as the subsequent days pass one by one, I hope you can grieve freely and fully. Your mother will always be with you now in a different way and that is very comforting and beautiful.
Peace to you, Kaija.
Jane
 

sisgldnhr

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Joined
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Messages
129
Reason
CALS
Diagnosis
03/2008
Country
US
State
OHio
City
NW
Kaija,

I'm sorry to hear that your mother passed. It was wonderful that your friends were there for you.

Sis
 

vmd

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idaho
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I will keep you in my prayers. I am certain your mother will be eternally grateful to you that you were there with her and loving her until the end of her physical life. Now, comes the afterlife!
 

Al

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Joined
May 25, 2004
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7,960
Reason
PALS
Diagnosis
10/2003
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CA
State
On
City
NW of Toronto
My sincere condolences to you and your family Kaija.
AL.
 

Jeannie

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Joined
Dec 19, 2007
Messages
222
Reason
Loved one DX
Diagnosis
01/2008
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US
State
NJ
City
Vernon
Dear Kaija,
Please accept my deepest sympathy on the loss of your mom. There is no greater love than that of a mother. There are no words to ease your pain, just know I am here for you.
You are in my thoughts and prayers
In friendship
Jeannie
 

CindyM

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Learn about ALS
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New England
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Anytown
I am sorry for your loss, Kaija. Please visit us often as you grieve the loss of your mother. Cindy
 

Icanmanz

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Joined
Jul 14, 2007
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947
Reason
PALS
Country
Uni
State
Texas
City
Tomball
Kajia, just read your message this morning. I really do not want to use the word "sorry," and I would not want to hurt your feelings at a time like this either, but am pleased to hear that your sweet Mom is finally at rest. The final moments are painful for us loved ones, but our Father always grants us peace in a very mysterious way. Your mom is at rest where there is no more pain. May she rest in peace. My condolences to you and yours. Take care. Had a very busy yesterday, it was my late son's b'day. I was gone all day! God bless!

Irma
 

brooksea

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HM
Kaija,

Your Mom is at peace now, on to a new realm.

You are a wonderful loving daughter.
 

Vinee

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Joined
Jun 19, 2008
Messages
4
Reason
CALS
Country
IND
State
MAHARASTRA
City
MUMBAI
i am very sorry to hear about your mum.hoping u to settle down fast in life.sorry for your loss
 

CindyM

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Learn about ALS
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Hi again, Kaija. I gave additional condolences on the thread where you posted about your Mom's memorial service. I guess you can't have too many good wishes at a time like this. Think is, I'd forgotten about ths thread. Shows what happens when you stay up late!

The service sounds nice, though. I am glad your family got a lot of support and thanks for taking the time to update us. Cindy
 
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