My husband passed 4/24/2008

[Icanmanz]

Cincy, God bless you and your son, is it son or sons? I'm sorry............... The one that turned 24 on the 23rd, tell him I am sure his Dad was by his side wishing him a Happy Birthday. May God bless you folks! My prayers your way.

Irma

 

[Cincinnati]

Irma Thank you for keeping us in your prayers. We have 2 sons and a grandson.

 

[fiddleplayer51]

Cincinnati,
I hope as these weeks have gone by since your husband passed that you have found solace and rest. It's especially devastating how he suddenly died and your description of his last day is so tragic. I'm so sorry for your loss. Your children have witnessed alot in their young lives which will stay with them forever. It is so very sad, but I'm sure they will grow up to be very compassionate people for the suffering they have seen first hand.
I hope you can fully grieve now and find peace knowing that you did all you could to bring care and comfort to your husband. Take care, Cincy.
Jane

 

[Cincinnati]

I feel that I'm on an emotional roller coaster up and down. Some days I think I was totally in denial about the disease even though I cared for him. With his last day coming as a shock, no warnings I sometimes beat myself thinking of things I should have asked him. I guess in reality I thought I would have a warning of the final approaching but I didn't nor did Jerry. For the caregivers and family members please leave each day with your pals like it will be your last, with this disease you never know what will happen next. I never thought on Wednesday evening (4/23/0 that it would be the last time we would ever have a conversation, hold each etc. When I awoke on Thursday morning (4/24/200 Jerry was in the active stage of dying and he passed that afternoon with all of his family with him.

 

[Cincinnati]

I do not know how the smiley faces got into my post but I sure didn't mean for that to happen. If someone know how to edit please take them out.

 

[CindyM]

I removed the smiley faces for you!

It is understandable that life is a roller coaster for you right now but please do not beat yourself up over the things you might have said and done. Your husband passed with his family around him, which is what all of us want. Any of us can find something we wished we'd done differently, if we look for it. But none of us can change the past.

Look to the future: what would your husband want for you and his children right now? I bet he'd want peace and serenity for all of you. My hope for you is that you are able to find this. Cordially, Cindy

 

[Cincinnati]

Thank you Cindy for removing the smiley faces. I really appreciate your kind words and I'm trying to think of all the good times before this horrible disease struck our family.

 

[CindyM]

You are welcome, Cincinnati. Things will get better in time. Meanwhile, you have friends around here. You probably feel alone right now but we are here for you.