asya
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- Apr 5, 2013
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- Lost a loved one
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Hi everyone,
First of all, I would like to thank you all for this wonderful forum and for all the advice you provide. My father was diagnosed with ALS (Bulbar) about 6 months ago. He was never an optimistic person to begin with, but now it's really bad. My parents should've divorced many years ago, but didn't for financial reasons. So now my mom is taking care of my father. They haven't had a good relationship for the past 20 years or so, so you can imagine the way things are now. My mom is still working (part time and 2 days a week from home). It helps her financially and just to be in a different environment. My father is killing her emotionally. He is putting her down, says terrible things to go and just treats her like she is nothing. She cooks, cleans and does things around the house. I live very close to my parents and see/talk to my mom daily. I work full time and have 2 little kids, but really try to do what i can. I have no idea how to help my mom... I have no idea what to do. I have an older brother, but he is a lot closer to our father and has a better relationship. It's hard for him to understand what my mom goes through as he has a totally different life style... I never had a good relationship with my father, but really trying right now. We just went to a family vacation... to try to spend some time together as a family. I am afraid that while my father is dying, he will take my mom with him.... I don't know what to do. Any suggestions? My father is on anti-depressants and it's helping, but his screaming and putting down never stops. Has any of you gone through this? How can i help my mom? I know how to help my dad, but i am terrified that i will lose my mom as well. Thank you for reading and I'm sorry for a long post.
First of all, I would like to thank you all for this wonderful forum and for all the advice you provide. My father was diagnosed with ALS (Bulbar) about 6 months ago. He was never an optimistic person to begin with, but now it's really bad. My parents should've divorced many years ago, but didn't for financial reasons. So now my mom is taking care of my father. They haven't had a good relationship for the past 20 years or so, so you can imagine the way things are now. My mom is still working (part time and 2 days a week from home). It helps her financially and just to be in a different environment. My father is killing her emotionally. He is putting her down, says terrible things to go and just treats her like she is nothing. She cooks, cleans and does things around the house. I live very close to my parents and see/talk to my mom daily. I work full time and have 2 little kids, but really try to do what i can. I have no idea how to help my mom... I have no idea what to do. I have an older brother, but he is a lot closer to our father and has a better relationship. It's hard for him to understand what my mom goes through as he has a totally different life style... I never had a good relationship with my father, but really trying right now. We just went to a family vacation... to try to spend some time together as a family. I am afraid that while my father is dying, he will take my mom with him.... I don't know what to do. Any suggestions? My father is on anti-depressants and it's helping, but his screaming and putting down never stops. Has any of you gone through this? How can i help my mom? I know how to help my dad, but i am terrified that i will lose my mom as well. Thank you for reading and I'm sorry for a long post.