I realize that I don't post much here -- but I am a daily lurker.
Last Thursday my mom decided to tackle the 4 stairs that lead to "her" floor of the house. You know what's coming: she has managed them with some strategically placed handrails and her walker... but last Thursday I hear a giant crash and there was mom - flat on her back.
After I cussed out 911 a bit... because even 911 can't move fast enough, y'know... we managed to get her to the hospital. The stay was traumatic in that they left her in bed for 4 days. There wasn't a bone broken - she had a small bleed but nothing intensive. She could have come home the next day had the nurse not freaked out about her heart numbers (whatever those are that come back when they check for a heart attack). When her Primary care Dr. showed up he asked about the #'s because the initial testing showed that it was 5xs higher as someone who had died of a heart attack. He ordered the blood retested - and wouldn't ya know it = normal.
She is in a rehab facility now - because she can't even sit up. She could sit up - get up to standing - walk with her walker - and go down stairs and up stairs (well... the 4 which we had forbid her to do -)
Now - she can barely hold a pen to write. (She can't speak)
I am SO frustrated.
She is petrified of losing her house (she lives with me but her house is the only thing she owns and she considers it her legacy)..
and now we have to figure out how to
#1 - afford a nurse 6 hours a day while I am at work
#2 - get her to the point she can be alone a few hours a day (which I don't think so!)
#3 - figure out how if I quit my job we can still pay bills and raise 5 children.
You've heard it all before.
My mom is tired... and scared... and wants to just come home but is scared we can't take care of her ourselves... scared of losing her house... etc.
Any advice?
Last Thursday my mom decided to tackle the 4 stairs that lead to "her" floor of the house. You know what's coming: she has managed them with some strategically placed handrails and her walker... but last Thursday I hear a giant crash and there was mom - flat on her back.
After I cussed out 911 a bit... because even 911 can't move fast enough, y'know... we managed to get her to the hospital. The stay was traumatic in that they left her in bed for 4 days. There wasn't a bone broken - she had a small bleed but nothing intensive. She could have come home the next day had the nurse not freaked out about her heart numbers (whatever those are that come back when they check for a heart attack). When her Primary care Dr. showed up he asked about the #'s because the initial testing showed that it was 5xs higher as someone who had died of a heart attack. He ordered the blood retested - and wouldn't ya know it = normal.
She is in a rehab facility now - because she can't even sit up. She could sit up - get up to standing - walk with her walker - and go down stairs and up stairs (well... the 4 which we had forbid her to do -)
Now - she can barely hold a pen to write. (She can't speak)
I am SO frustrated.
She is petrified of losing her house (she lives with me but her house is the only thing she owns and she considers it her legacy)..
and now we have to figure out how to
#1 - afford a nurse 6 hours a day while I am at work
#2 - get her to the point she can be alone a few hours a day (which I don't think so!)
#3 - figure out how if I quit my job we can still pay bills and raise 5 children.
You've heard it all before.
My mom is tired... and scared... and wants to just come home but is scared we can't take care of her ourselves... scared of losing her house... etc.
Any advice?