Erika
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Sep 21, 2016
- Messages
- 175
- Reason
- CALS
- Diagnosis
- 06/2016
- Country
- US
- State
- Arizona
- City
- Mesa
So, as you know, my mom was going to go to Mexico to compare and weight her options on both sides of the border. She is still there, but will return after Christmas for her clinic day Jan 4th. As of right now, she wants to come and go until she is no longer able to, but has decided she wants to stay here once she can't travel. The traffic and lack of ALS knowledge and support there have her feeling stressed. She's afraid she won't get treated fast or adequately should a crisis occur. Were supporting her and have told her we do everything we can to have her visit as often as she wants, but honestly, I think this may be her last time. We think even she know it, just doesn't want to make her return feel so final.
She is now using a wheelchair full time. She is able to stand, but only for transferring and short periods of time. Weakness began on her right leg and arm, and now it is in her trunk area and more recently her left arm and leg. Getting her into a vehicle is becoming increasingly difficult. Eating is a little more difficult, but only because she gets tired, not because she can't swallow. Although, her appetite isn't that great. Which is another thing were dealing with. We can't get her her calorie intake to go up. We've tried smoothies, protein shakes, juices, but she only takes a few sips and just doesn't touch the rest of the bottles left for her. In September, when she left, she would get tired and sweaty after a shower but was still doing it herself. Now my dad helps or my sister because she can no longer use her right arm and her left one is weak. Even with all the help, she is exhausted and needs to rest and laydown afterwards. Which brings me to my next point. She can't get used to that bipap machine. She hasn't used it at night once. She uses it when she feels tired and winded, like after her shower or after having company over. That's a total of about one maybe two hrs a day. I wish she would try it for longer periods of time, but she seems to use it less and less. About 3 weeks ago she told us she doesn't want any feeding or breathing tubes. She was pretty down those days but she said she doesn't want to prolong this illness and that she doesn't want to get to where she'll only be able to stare at her surroundings. She wants to let this illness run it's course. It breaks our hearts to hear her say that, because that shortens her time with us , but we also know it's her decision and only she know really how difficult this is. Already got in touch with a lawyer who will get her decision and wishes on paper so doctors will care for her accordingly.
She has her chair evaluation Jan 6th, but its going to take a few months to be ready and we're going to need it before we thought we would. I hope the ALs loan closet will have one available when she gets here. I think she feels her world closing in on her. She is now using a hospital bed over there and her lazy boy was moved from the living room to her bedroom along with her table to eat and her portable toilet. I want her to have the opportunity to move around on her own again.
I'm sorry making this go for so long. I hate that we are loosing our mom little by little! For a while now I've signed in to read and learn from all of you but couldn't bring myself to write without feeling sick to my stomach. Now I can't seem to stop! Thank you so much for all you share. You're in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you all had a great Thanksgiving!
-Erika
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She is now using a wheelchair full time. She is able to stand, but only for transferring and short periods of time. Weakness began on her right leg and arm, and now it is in her trunk area and more recently her left arm and leg. Getting her into a vehicle is becoming increasingly difficult. Eating is a little more difficult, but only because she gets tired, not because she can't swallow. Although, her appetite isn't that great. Which is another thing were dealing with. We can't get her her calorie intake to go up. We've tried smoothies, protein shakes, juices, but she only takes a few sips and just doesn't touch the rest of the bottles left for her. In September, when she left, she would get tired and sweaty after a shower but was still doing it herself. Now my dad helps or my sister because she can no longer use her right arm and her left one is weak. Even with all the help, she is exhausted and needs to rest and laydown afterwards. Which brings me to my next point. She can't get used to that bipap machine. She hasn't used it at night once. She uses it when she feels tired and winded, like after her shower or after having company over. That's a total of about one maybe two hrs a day. I wish she would try it for longer periods of time, but she seems to use it less and less. About 3 weeks ago she told us she doesn't want any feeding or breathing tubes. She was pretty down those days but she said she doesn't want to prolong this illness and that she doesn't want to get to where she'll only be able to stare at her surroundings. She wants to let this illness run it's course. It breaks our hearts to hear her say that, because that shortens her time with us , but we also know it's her decision and only she know really how difficult this is. Already got in touch with a lawyer who will get her decision and wishes on paper so doctors will care for her accordingly.
She has her chair evaluation Jan 6th, but its going to take a few months to be ready and we're going to need it before we thought we would. I hope the ALs loan closet will have one available when she gets here. I think she feels her world closing in on her. She is now using a hospital bed over there and her lazy boy was moved from the living room to her bedroom along with her table to eat and her portable toilet. I want her to have the opportunity to move around on her own again.
I'm sorry making this go for so long. I hate that we are loosing our mom little by little! For a while now I've signed in to read and learn from all of you but couldn't bring myself to write without feeling sick to my stomach. Now I can't seem to stop! Thank you so much for all you share. You're in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you all had a great Thanksgiving!
-Erika
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