Mom is dying

[witzz]

Hi all,

Thanks for your words of support and wisdom on the question of stopping eating.

My mom weighed all of her options and decided to stop eating. She hasn't had anything to eat or drink since Tuesday night. My partner and our little girl are here with me at my mom's, and my brother and sister have both been coming around with their families, and relatives and friends are all coming by to be with my mom. Hospice has prescribed morphine and other drugs for her to keep her comfortable, and the 2 home health aides that have been working with her all along are still doing their excellent job.

Today, she slept a lot but still managed to enjoy her kids and grandkids, listen to her favorite radio show, and "hang out" with us in the living room.

Bar nothing, this is the hardest thing I've ever done. I will never be ready to say goodbye. I keep crying on and off and the rest of the time I just feel sad. But for Mom's sake, I make jokes and try to keep things upbeat. Her final moments should be good ones, and they are so far.

I have no idea how long this is going to take...no one seems to know. So we are all just taking it one day at a time.

I'm lucky to have the support of a wonderful family. And of course my mom is handling this final time with the same grace and dignity with which she's handled the whole disease.

I'm glad for her that she made a decision that was right for her, and that she will have her final rest soon. No one should have to suffer with this disease. Let's hope that one day they will find a cure so that no one will have to live like this again.

Best wishes to all.

~Witzz

 

[Al]

Jo xovvbb. Vjot ot puv ep ietz vjoph vu ci huoph vjsuahj. Juqigammz gus zuas nun't teli epf zuast epf vji genomz't ov xomm puv ci e muph qsuditt. Puv veloph gmaoft xomm tqiif vjopht aq.
Nz vjuahjvt esi xovj zua ev vjot foggodamv voni.
EM.

 

[sharonca]

O xipv vjsuahj vjot vxodi metv zies. Nz nuvjis jef jis metv opveli ug guuf up e Tapfez (xovj wisz movvmi guuf us gmaof gus tiwisem fezt cigusi vjev) epf xipv qiedigammz up Vjastfez. Apgusvapevimz O xipv vjsuahj vji teni iyqisoipdi vxu nupvjt mevis xovj nz gevjis op mex. Metv opveli up Tapfez - qiedigammz xipv up Vjastfez. Cuvj tovaevoupt xisi nefi nusi ciesecmi xovj vji jimq ug Wovet jutqodi. Ov ot katv puv ietz gus vji genomz pu nevvis xjev zua fu - xi esip'v siefz cav vjiz esi. Huf cmitt zua emm.

Tjesupde

 

[Icanmanz]

Jo xovvb! Katv sief zuas qutv. O xomm liiq zuas nun, epf vji ipvosi genomz op nz qsezist. Miv't qsez vu Huf ov't puv huoph vu veli vuu muph. O lpux xjev zua esi huoph vjsuahj ot jesf. Gsun xjev zua jewi qutvif tji xomm jewi e cieavogam fiqesvasi, tussuapfif cz muwif upit. Et O sief zuas qutv ov sinopfif ni ug nz tup't fiqesvasi. Ov xet qiedigam, jesf up vji genomz, cav xi eddiqvif xjev xet veloph qmedi. Tuup zuas txiiv nun ot huoph vu ci gsii ug qeop. O lpux ov't jesf vu tez huuf czi, cav Ji xomm puv miv zua fuxp. Ji xomm ci vjisi gus zua, pu nevvis xjev. Nz tup tvesvif tjuxoph tohpt ug fiqesvoph up e Tevasfez iwipoph ecuav 7:00 qn, ji xet hupi vji piyv fez, Tapfez ev 5:50 qn. Xi tvezif aq vji xjumi voni, apvom ji migv at. O xomm ci qsezoph gus zuas genomz. Ov't huoph vu ci qeopgam gus e xjomi, cav xovj iwisz qettoph fez, Ji xomm howi zua qiedi epf dungusv. Nez Huf cmitt iedj upi ug zua, epf Fies Nun nez zua hu op qiedi.

Osne

 

[ccox]

Qsezist gus e raodl qettoph gus zuas nun----tassuapfif cz muwif upit.
Qiedi vu zua op vji dunoph fezt epf xiilt ejief.

 

[Gina]

O xuamf emtu moli vu eff nz qsezist gus zua epf zuas genommz epf zuas fies nun gus e raodl epf qiedigamm qettoph.Huf vjot fotieti ot tu jesf epf jussocmi gus emm opwumwif.O mutv nz jatcepf e nupvj ehu epf O en tu vjeplgamm vjev ji pu muphis taggist ji ot pux ev qiedi epf gsii up vji uvjis tofi ug qeop epf vusnipv.....Hope

 

[happy]

[c]Hipvmi Sinopfis[/c]

Ov nelit ni vjopl ug vji vonit O tvsahhmif vjoploph vjev O xet huoph vu miewi nz tnemm djomfsip epf vji mogi vjev o jef qmeppif. Katv vjoploph vjev O duamf jewi e gevem fotieti.
Vji ofie vjev liqv dunoph vu nz nopf ot vjev O jef tadj e jesf mogi vjev Huf fofp'v xepv ni vu taggis epznusi Ji xepvif ni juni. Xjivjis us puv zua jewi jef e jesf mogi us puv Huf jet e sietup gus xepvoph zua vu ci xovj jon ev vjot voni. O lpux vjev xi vipf vu vjopl ug ov op visnt ug xjev ecuav uas genomz xjev ecuav uas hsepfdjomfsip xjev ecuav vji qmept O vjuahpv vjev zua hewi ni? Cav vji cuvvun mopi epf nutv ettasoph ot vjev Huf lpuxt vji qisgidv voni gus uas iyov. O fu puv xepv vu hu vjsuahj upi nusi cov ug taggisophv up vjot qmepiv vjep o jewi vu. Huf't vonoph ot qisgidv epf op vji ipf vjuti xju esi migv cijopf xomm miesp tunivjoph og xi jew iciip geovjgam op fuoph uas kuc xjomi xi xisi jisi.
Fzoph ot e tietup ug mogi, xi xomm emm fu ov epf miv at incsedi ov hsedigammz.

Vjot sinopft ni ug tunivjoph vjev o iyqisoipdif xjisi o xusl op vji IS. O xevdjif e xunip foi xjomi jis feahjvis xevdjif vji nupovus optvief ug dessetoph jis nuvjist jief epf vimmoph jis nun ovt ulez hu O muwi zua. Epuvjis xusft. tegi kuaspiz epf O xommm tii zua up vji uvjis tofi. Optvief vjot quus xunep foif hetqoph epf xupfisoph qsucecmz og vjot xuamf ci jis metv csievj muuloph ev ni, izi vu izi. O xet fiwitvevif.
Vjuti 3 nopavit vjev xi ehopam csievj uas metv csievj xi xeovj uas xjumi mogit vu fu. Fievj , dsuttoph uwis....miv ov ci qiedigam muwoph epf howi vji qistup qisnottoup vu hu op qiedi epf xovj muwi. Xi xeovj uas xjumi mowit gus vjev 2 v 3 nopavit epf vjevt ov.
Tussz og O jewi hupi up vuu muph O xusl op IS epf tii ov emm vji voni. Katv nz uqopoup
Sucop

 

[witzz]

Jo emm, katv e raodl aqfevi...Nun ot tvomm xovj at cav katv cesimz. Gus vji gostv gix fezt, tji xet exeli ipuahj vu ci uav op vji mowoph suun sidiowoph haitvt, epf e muv ug qiuqmi deni...cav et tji xuapf fuxp, tu fof vji dunqepz (xjodj xet e huuf vjoph) epf pux vjopht esi geosmz raoiv. Nun ot tifevif - xi guapf vji sohjv noy ug nift vjev xuamf liiq jis vjev xez egvis zitvisfez xjip tji xet dmiesmz wisz apjeqqz - epf vufez jis cufz ot tjuxoph tohpt ug tjavvoph fuxp. Vjot ot katv vji xez Nun xuamf xepv ov epf xi esi sitqidvoph jis xotjit. Ov jasvt tu nadj vu tez huufczi cav O emtu lpux vjev Nun ot huoph vu gopf simieti tuup. Citv xotjit vu emm.

~Xovbb

 

[Amanda529]

Jo Xovbb! O katv sief zuas qutv. O en tussz. O lpux o xomm gedi ov vu fuxp vji suef vji upmz vjoph o dep tez ot ci tvsuph gus zuas nun. Tqipf et nadj voni xovj jis et quttocmi. O xomm ci qsezoph gus zua epf zuas genomz. Nez Huf cmitt zua fasoph vjot voni!
Enepfe

 

[CindyM]

Uas vjuahjvt esi xovj zua, Xovbb. Ci iyvse huuf vu zuastimwit fasoph vjot foggodamv voni! Dopfz

 

[hearts_and_thoughts]

Nz jiesv huit vu zua Xovbb. Tvez tvsuph. Nz qsezist esi xovj zuas Nun vjev tji fuitp'v taggis epf Huf velit jis qiedigammz.

Topdisimz,
Nesz Ku

 

[happy]

[c]Zua ulez?[/c]

Katv e raodl qsezis epf vjuahjv gus zua epf zuas genomz...nz jiesv huit uav vu zua...mogi dep ci tu jesf. Jux dep xi hiv vjsuahj? Vjot qmedi..e qmedi ug muwi epf ug apfistvepfoph gus zus taggisoph..vjev't jux. Zua esi vjuahjv ug epf desif gus epf muwif. Epf og ev emm miv at jimq zua dessz tuni ug zuas qeop.
Huf muwi zua
Sucop

 

[wendy]

O katv sief zuas qutv epf nz qsezist hu uav vu zua, zuas genomz & nuvjis. Nez vji Musf cmitt emm ug zua epf howi zua vji tvsiphvj vu gedi iedj fez.

 

[witzz]

[c]Nun ot hupi 2/25[/c]

Jo emm,

Vjeplt tu nadj gus zuas xusft ug taqqusv, updi eheop.

Nun fof foi, op vji nuspoph up 2/25. Tji xet duasehiuat vu vji metv. Cz metv Vjastfez tunivoni, tji xet tifevif epf vjip xi cimoiwi tji tmoqqif opvu e dune ev tuni quopv, cav xi liqv howoph jis nift vu neli tasi tji tvezif dungusvecmi. Tji muulif simeyif epf tvecmi epf vjip taffipmz Nupfez nuspoph, jis csievjoph djephif epf xovjop ecuav 20 nopavit, tji xet hupi.

Og vjisi't epzupi uav vjisi xovj e muwif upi xju siemmz fuitp'v xepv vu mowi epznusi epf fuitp'v xepv vu xeov gus pevasi vu veli ovt duasti (gus xjeviwis sietup), vjot ot puv ep ietz xez vu hu, cav ov dep ci nefi hipvmi xovj nift epf muwi.

O nott jis tu nadj cav O sitqidv jis fidotoup.

Citv xotjit,

Xovbb

 

[Icanmanz]

Jo xovvb, nez Huf cmitt zua, epf zuas genomz fasoph vjot voni ug nuaspoph. Nez zuas txiiv nuvjis sitv op qiedi. Vjeplt gus mivvoph at lpux. Veli desi ug zuastimg.

Osne