jayswife
Active member
- Joined
- Feb 11, 2016
- Messages
- 71
- Reason
- CALS
- Diagnosis
- 04/2014
- Country
- US
- State
- ct
- City
- stratford
We're having a serious problem. Jay is on a Medicare Advantage plan. An attorney was recommended to us through the als association in our state. Supposedly this attorney can get Jay on Medicaid even though we are over the limit. And the cost to do that is close to $10,000.00. Jay has a friend that is insisting that we do this. He contacted his friend to try to make this happen with the attorney. This friend also invited the attorney to our house one day while i was at work and the attorney drew up POA paperwork naming myself and this friend. I was livid. The friend is intrusive and convincing Jay that he needs to get on Medicaid. He's got Jay convinced that this is going to solve any upcoming problems. Jay said that he will be able to stay in the home with care if he gets on medicaid. I don't know - I don't understand all of this medicaid business. But i do think that attorney fee is outrageous. All that money upfront to not even know if he's going to do that much money worth of work. Jay's friend wrote me a next text last night - Some of the things he said - "I know you're busy but you haven't returned my messages regarding Jay and his treatment." - The attorney has NOTHING to do with his treatment. Then he said A friend "is coming by tomorrow and I asked that he call me and put me on speaker phone so we can work this out." I told Jay I'm not doing that. "Hopefully you'll be there tomorrow because all of his friends and providers that are helping him are concerned about the lack of communication." I'm sorry but WTF? Concerned that we're not coughing up a check? And what providers is he referring to? The attorney? I don't get it. Of course I messaged him back but my problem is Jay is not upset with the way this guy talks to me. A few weeks ago he had the nerve to quietly ask our aid if I'm leaving Jay alone. And rewind to last year when they were pushing this attorney and I wouldn't speak to them because I thought it was too much money, I got a message from the attorney's assistant saying that if I don't contact them then adult protective services can take Jay out of the home. Excuse me?? I take very good care of my husband.
I'm at a loss as to what to do. I told Jay that much money is insane and he asked me if he was my son, would i put up a fight about it? So clearly he feels that I don't have his best interest. We are at odds. Not speaking. And another one of his jerk friends will be at my house when I go home.
I'm at a loss as to what to do. I told Jay that much money is insane and he asked me if he was my son, would i put up a fight about it? So clearly he feels that I don't have his best interest. We are at odds. Not speaking. And another one of his jerk friends will be at my house when I go home.