Hi Delb,
I am sorry to read about what you are going through right now. You are really close to Dallas, according to the Google map that I looked up, and there are plenty of resources there (and in Seagoville) to help you.
1) Medicaid. Apply immediately, but you should actually be covered by Medicare if you have already been processed for Social Security Disability with an ALS diagnosis. Why has disability not kicked in yet?
2) Legal Aid. There are some free legal services in the Dallas metroplex, and I am sure that a lawyer would be willing to work with you both on your financial conflicts with your wife but also with your questionable firing from your job (plus Medicare/Medicaid assistance). Do a Google search for "Legal Aid" in Dallas.
3) Some sort of charitable organization. I am going to call the Methodist Church in Seagoville to find out who might be able to help you there in town. If you find someone who is willing to help you by reading what you write and then conveying the information to whomever over the phone, I think you will overcome the biggest hurdle that you are facing right now.
I'll think of some other things after you explore these first three options.
You definitely seem depressed, as you indicated in your initial post. It's normal to feel frustrated by the things that you *can't* do, such as talk on the telephone. When I feel overwhelmed, I try to play the "I might not [fill in the blank], but at least I can [fill in the blank.]" I can't say that I am perfect and always come up with quick solutions, but when I start to feel frustrated, I try to remind myself to focus on what I *can* do. In your instance, you are already reaching out for help through a means that you still have available to you--typing and the internet. So look for solutions that allow you to take advantage of your ability to communicate in writing. Take back control of your life by focusing on what you can still do. As you start to get things done, you will feel more motivated and energized to accomplish even more things. It's like a snowball effect, and you will slowly start to feel more positive about your life in general. Every time you accomplish something, give yourself a pep talk about what you just did. This will also help you. And start small if the big things seem overwhelming. Make a list, break it down into smaller tasks, and take things one step at a time. Every little thing you do will help you overcome your bigger hurdles, and eventually you'll get to where you need to be.
In the meantime, get some fresh air on this gorgeous day, and please remember that you are not alone, no matter how much you might feel like it--just look at all the compassionate, supportive replies that you have already received from others on this site! I'll be back in touch here on this forum topic after I have a chance to speak with someone in Seagoville, and I'll be sure to get an email address where you can contact someone for help.
I am sorry to read about what you are going through right now. You are really close to Dallas, according to the Google map that I looked up, and there are plenty of resources there (and in Seagoville) to help you.
1) Medicaid. Apply immediately, but you should actually be covered by Medicare if you have already been processed for Social Security Disability with an ALS diagnosis. Why has disability not kicked in yet?
2) Legal Aid. There are some free legal services in the Dallas metroplex, and I am sure that a lawyer would be willing to work with you both on your financial conflicts with your wife but also with your questionable firing from your job (plus Medicare/Medicaid assistance). Do a Google search for "Legal Aid" in Dallas.
3) Some sort of charitable organization. I am going to call the Methodist Church in Seagoville to find out who might be able to help you there in town. If you find someone who is willing to help you by reading what you write and then conveying the information to whomever over the phone, I think you will overcome the biggest hurdle that you are facing right now.
I'll think of some other things after you explore these first three options.
You definitely seem depressed, as you indicated in your initial post. It's normal to feel frustrated by the things that you *can't* do, such as talk on the telephone. When I feel overwhelmed, I try to play the "I might not [fill in the blank], but at least I can [fill in the blank.]" I can't say that I am perfect and always come up with quick solutions, but when I start to feel frustrated, I try to remind myself to focus on what I *can* do. In your instance, you are already reaching out for help through a means that you still have available to you--typing and the internet. So look for solutions that allow you to take advantage of your ability to communicate in writing. Take back control of your life by focusing on what you can still do. As you start to get things done, you will feel more motivated and energized to accomplish even more things. It's like a snowball effect, and you will slowly start to feel more positive about your life in general. Every time you accomplish something, give yourself a pep talk about what you just did. This will also help you. And start small if the big things seem overwhelming. Make a list, break it down into smaller tasks, and take things one step at a time. Every little thing you do will help you overcome your bigger hurdles, and eventually you'll get to where you need to be.
In the meantime, get some fresh air on this gorgeous day, and please remember that you are not alone, no matter how much you might feel like it--just look at all the compassionate, supportive replies that you have already received from others on this site! I'll be back in touch here on this forum topic after I have a chance to speak with someone in Seagoville, and I'll be sure to get an email address where you can contact someone for help.
