RSV Aus
New member
- Joined
- Aug 30, 2016
- Messages
- 9
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Diagnosis
- 10/2015
- Country
- Aus
- State
- NSW
- City
- Sydney
Hi everyone,
I haven't posted on this forum in over a year now and I've been missing it in my life! My dad was diagnosed with ALS 2 years ago (age 57), and it was around mid-last year that I discovered this forum. It allowed me to connect with people also affected by the disease, who understood what my family and I were going through and vice versa - even though most of you are halfway across the world! Haha. I've missed receiving (and giving where I can!) support, advice and much-needed words of encouragement. So I'm back!
Dad's condition has deteriorated in that time... It's amazing to think that this time last year we were touring around Europe with him! It was the best trip ever and I'm so glad we did it when we did!! He was able to walk then, slowly and with a limp. Now he's in a wheelchair and we use a hoist for transfers because he can't weight bear. He needs full assistance with showering, dressing and feeding. He can't sleep flat because of breathlessness and he's started aspirating so he mostly eats soft food and drinks slowly through a straw - but we're thankful that his breathing and swallowing difficulties are still in the early stages.
I was doing okay for a while... emotionally I mean. I'd come to terms with things, was just trying to focus on the positives and living day to day. Until a few months ago when I had a miscarriage It was my first pregnancy, and we were all so excited! FINALLY we had some good news and something to look forward to! But life never quite goes as you plan. That was really hard to deal with - and was made even harder by the fact that very soon after, I found out that 4 of my relatives and closest friends are pregnant. It was like being kicked when you're down. I was and am honestly soooo happy for them!! But I can't help thinking how unfair it is... don't I deserve that happiness too, especially given everything else that's going on? Doesn't my dad deserve to see and hold a grandchild? Doesn't my amazing husband deserve a ray of sunshine in a life he could have never imagined when we got together 10 years ago? I try to tell myself that I need to get over it, that these things happen in their own time and there's nothing I can do about it - but it doesn't help. I just keep thinking about it and I don't know what to do.
Oh gosh sorry for the ramble! I started out with the intention of saying a quick hi update, and ended up pouring my heart out! haha. I guess that happens on this forum. Thanks for listening/reading. I hope you all and your loved ones are doing okay
Sending everyone my thoughts and best wishes,
Ruhie
I haven't posted on this forum in over a year now and I've been missing it in my life! My dad was diagnosed with ALS 2 years ago (age 57), and it was around mid-last year that I discovered this forum. It allowed me to connect with people also affected by the disease, who understood what my family and I were going through and vice versa - even though most of you are halfway across the world! Haha. I've missed receiving (and giving where I can!) support, advice and much-needed words of encouragement. So I'm back!
Dad's condition has deteriorated in that time... It's amazing to think that this time last year we were touring around Europe with him! It was the best trip ever and I'm so glad we did it when we did!! He was able to walk then, slowly and with a limp. Now he's in a wheelchair and we use a hoist for transfers because he can't weight bear. He needs full assistance with showering, dressing and feeding. He can't sleep flat because of breathlessness and he's started aspirating so he mostly eats soft food and drinks slowly through a straw - but we're thankful that his breathing and swallowing difficulties are still in the early stages.
I was doing okay for a while... emotionally I mean. I'd come to terms with things, was just trying to focus on the positives and living day to day. Until a few months ago when I had a miscarriage It was my first pregnancy, and we were all so excited! FINALLY we had some good news and something to look forward to! But life never quite goes as you plan. That was really hard to deal with - and was made even harder by the fact that very soon after, I found out that 4 of my relatives and closest friends are pregnant. It was like being kicked when you're down. I was and am honestly soooo happy for them!! But I can't help thinking how unfair it is... don't I deserve that happiness too, especially given everything else that's going on? Doesn't my dad deserve to see and hold a grandchild? Doesn't my amazing husband deserve a ray of sunshine in a life he could have never imagined when we got together 10 years ago? I try to tell myself that I need to get over it, that these things happen in their own time and there's nothing I can do about it - but it doesn't help. I just keep thinking about it and I don't know what to do.
Oh gosh sorry for the ramble! I started out with the intention of saying a quick hi update, and ended up pouring my heart out! haha. I guess that happens on this forum. Thanks for listening/reading. I hope you all and your loved ones are doing okay
Sending everyone my thoughts and best wishes,
Ruhie