califsand
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- Joined
- Sep 21, 2007
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- 237
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- 01/2004
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- sant barbara
Thanks Cindy... just wish I didn't feel like I wasn't doing enough. I know I'm not doing enough and that I could do better but I'm so tired, ya know?
My sister sent me an update on Dad today. It seriously bothered me! She lives in Texas, only recently started calling to check in and knew that I was taking the night off from visiting Dad so I could have a breather. I was thrown off by an email from her telling me she had called to check on Dad & the nurse said he had a fever and all this other stuff. So there went my night off! I thought about going to check on him but called instead and the nurse told me he was fine, no fever, etc. I told her about the email update and she said "Yup, pretty weird!" One of my brothers did that once... he has gone to see Dad about 4 times in the past year and actually called me to tell me how Dad was doing. Do these guys think that I go there daily (except for an occassional day off) without knowing how he's doing? And why would they think that I would want to hear their assessment of his health when they check on him just 4 times a year or so? Have any of you encountered that situation? I told my sister that she shouldn't be sending me updates about Dad when I'm the one that is always there... I know it hurt her feelings but come on, she hasn't been there and her info was wrong anyways! She said that the nurse had given a med that I know to be a crisis med and that I have to authorize... well she had the medication information totally wrong because she doesn't even know what he takes or what it is for. Alarmed me for no reason.
Sorry, I'm tired. People frustrate me. They don't make themselves available but then they cause anxiety when they decide to show they care....... it's too little too late, they can't avoid the problem for years and then try to become a part of the solution when things are as far gone as they are at this point. Why not just say you care and show it in appropriate ways? Ugh
I better go to bed, my emotions are melting down.
Sandy
My sister sent me an update on Dad today. It seriously bothered me! She lives in Texas, only recently started calling to check in and knew that I was taking the night off from visiting Dad so I could have a breather. I was thrown off by an email from her telling me she had called to check on Dad & the nurse said he had a fever and all this other stuff. So there went my night off! I thought about going to check on him but called instead and the nurse told me he was fine, no fever, etc. I told her about the email update and she said "Yup, pretty weird!" One of my brothers did that once... he has gone to see Dad about 4 times in the past year and actually called me to tell me how Dad was doing. Do these guys think that I go there daily (except for an occassional day off) without knowing how he's doing? And why would they think that I would want to hear their assessment of his health when they check on him just 4 times a year or so? Have any of you encountered that situation? I told my sister that she shouldn't be sending me updates about Dad when I'm the one that is always there... I know it hurt her feelings but come on, she hasn't been there and her info was wrong anyways! She said that the nurse had given a med that I know to be a crisis med and that I have to authorize... well she had the medication information totally wrong because she doesn't even know what he takes or what it is for. Alarmed me for no reason.
Sorry, I'm tired. People frustrate me. They don't make themselves available but then they cause anxiety when they decide to show they care....... it's too little too late, they can't avoid the problem for years and then try to become a part of the solution when things are as far gone as they are at this point. Why not just say you care and show it in appropriate ways? Ugh
I better go to bed, my emotions are melting down.
Sandy