- Joined
- Nov 20, 2018
- Messages
- 231
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 02/2018
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- US
- State
- VA
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Have been thinking about regrets: When it's something like a diagnosis and I have strong regrets - I might be trying to open a back door out of feeling so very helplessness towards the present situation - i.e. that I really cannot change it but deep in my heart I would love to do exactly that. Even though reality is what it is: by telling myself that 'had I done something different....' it's not hitting me quite as hard and w. my guilt feelings I can blame myself rather than be totally powerless over not being able to change a truly unfortunate situation. Sometimes it takes time to come around and accept what is.
My partner knew in one way or another that something serious was hanging over his head and needed time to get used to it. When he was ready he scheduled some appointments. I really believe that it's loving to give people space, let people make their own decisions in their own time, let them work with the circumstances they are in and not step in and change their world because I think it would be better that way. Who knows... striving for balance.
My partner knew in one way or another that something serious was hanging over his head and needed time to get used to it. When he was ready he scheduled some appointments. I really believe that it's loving to give people space, let people make their own decisions in their own time, let them work with the circumstances they are in and not step in and change their world because I think it would be better that way. Who knows... striving for balance.