Hello everyone. I am in a relationship with a beautiful man who happens to have als. We met when I began helping him as his caregiver. We have so much in common and just hit it off immediately. I know he is ill but I still see HIM the man and not the illness. I watched a documentary where the woman who had als said it was difficult for her to love as the disease was "all consuming". So here is my question. I want to love and be there for this man. Please tell me, guide me...help me to be what he needs. We get super close then he pulls away. It's almost like he wants to sabotage things. I understand he feels like he is living in hell. How do I help? What can I do? I feel helpless. Any input or advice will be much appreciated.