KeeKer
Senior member
- Joined
- Nov 17, 2008
- Messages
- 834
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Diagnosis
- 08/2007
- Country
- CA
- State
- SK
- City
- Theodore
Dear Sandy,
I can't email him, they shut down his email right away. I still think, oh I should tell him that! Every time I opened my email and didn't see a message it hurt. I miss him alot! Going to see my parents this weekend. They are in the early stages of Alzheimers and dementia. They knew what was happening with Wes, and my mom stopped to see him every day. He lived next door to them. He went to the hospice to give my sister in law a break for a few days. It took her a week to get up the nerve to go visit him. She waited until I came home and told her he wasn't that different. My sister would see him every few months and would be terrified with the change and then tell my mom. Every time they see me now they cry. It's hard. The funeral was really difficult. Had to hold up my dad at the grave.
Christmas wasn't too bad, didn't go back. My oldest son came out for Christmas. He's turning 18 on the 11th. He stayed out there to finish gr. 12. My husband got transfered last Feb. Just got into my new house, no floors or doors. Better than 1 bedroom apartment we were renting. Nothing else available here. I had Christmas for both sides last year. I was my brothers turn but wasn't well enough. Didn't know it would be my last out there. Usually had my parents for Christmas so that felt different. Think that is the last family one. Usually have to set the date around my sister's children, who are married and have children too. Gets rediculous! Last year we went with when my other brother wasn't working and when Wes could make it. They were very close. Dale was there every day. Think it was a good memory for them.
Good luck on your birthday. Think getting to a new place for this year would probably be a good idea. It helps a little to be in a different place. He wouldn't want you to be sad on your birthday. Look how hard he tried to make it special.
thanks for listening
Colleen
I can't email him, they shut down his email right away. I still think, oh I should tell him that! Every time I opened my email and didn't see a message it hurt. I miss him alot! Going to see my parents this weekend. They are in the early stages of Alzheimers and dementia. They knew what was happening with Wes, and my mom stopped to see him every day. He lived next door to them. He went to the hospice to give my sister in law a break for a few days. It took her a week to get up the nerve to go visit him. She waited until I came home and told her he wasn't that different. My sister would see him every few months and would be terrified with the change and then tell my mom. Every time they see me now they cry. It's hard. The funeral was really difficult. Had to hold up my dad at the grave.
Christmas wasn't too bad, didn't go back. My oldest son came out for Christmas. He's turning 18 on the 11th. He stayed out there to finish gr. 12. My husband got transfered last Feb. Just got into my new house, no floors or doors. Better than 1 bedroom apartment we were renting. Nothing else available here. I had Christmas for both sides last year. I was my brothers turn but wasn't well enough. Didn't know it would be my last out there. Usually had my parents for Christmas so that felt different. Think that is the last family one. Usually have to set the date around my sister's children, who are married and have children too. Gets rediculous! Last year we went with when my other brother wasn't working and when Wes could make it. They were very close. Dale was there every day. Think it was a good memory for them.
Good luck on your birthday. Think getting to a new place for this year would probably be a good idea. It helps a little to be in a different place. He wouldn't want you to be sad on your birthday. Look how hard he tried to make it special.
thanks for listening
Colleen