funny about your husband. the same thing happen to me last week. I had a busy day with the kids and could not get the baby to sleep, just a long day. well, there were dishes in the sink ( i never let them sit there, that is my pet peeve, the house can be trashed but the kitchen must be clean) for a day. Well, my husband worked and then went golfing and got home at 11:15. the boys were still awake and he yelled at them "why are not asleep?" then proceeded to do the dishes (he never does this, at night after long day). I was half mad and half sad. I felt he was doing it to spite me. (see, I worked and golfed and still did the dishes) I felt guilty that I cant keep up the way I use to around the house.
WELL, I called my mom and sister to get there opinion on the matter. ( I have been known to over react). they said "oh- no -he -didnt!" and I said "oh -yea -he -did". they said I dont care if you are sick or not, you have 3 young kids on summer vacation, he should not say or do a peep! (mind you my hubby is wonderful and my family loves him)
so I said "your right". I made a sign that read "OFF DUTY, for lack of appreciation for what I do. I will not lift a finger other than love my kids", I made sure that the house was trashed-dishes everywhere, bottles, toys, you name it. Taped my sign on the kitchen wall. Then dropped the kids off at my moms, went to dinner with sisters so when he got home with kids he would see what happens if i really did not do a thing! Well he got the point, he wasnt that amused. we had a talk and I expressed my feelings of guilt. I want to do more, it just gets hard when you are the jello lady. he understood and we had a laugh over my over reaction. it was a bit much and back fired on me when the neighbors were over the next day while kids on waterslide. They asked to use the bathroom, I said no way, my house is trashed. You gotto go home to pee! Then explained what I did and there may be a new trend of "off duty" in my sub as the ladies thought it was a good idea.
anyway, just a little slice of humor. ps. my husband 3 years ago asked me why I dont do his laundry like his mom does......yes, you heard me. mind you I was working p/t and had the 2 young boys. Well, I stopped doing his laundry for 1 year and told him to call his mom. It sounds like its mean, mind you we are BEST friends, and he does appreciate my sense of humor. but his mom and 2 sisters did everything for him prior to me. so he needs a dose of reality every now and again. he was babied! lucky me!
needless to say he did not marry me for my domestic abilty.
Never feel bad about what you cant keep up with! the only thing that matters is loving and playing with your kids! who cares about the rest, the kids wont remeber. I feel like if things are going to get worse for me, i want to take this time and just have fun w/family and not stress about house or laundry....know what I mean?
well, sorry to blab.....just want to cheer you up.
wish me physical luck & strength...I have to take kids to target, party city, drs, and then go to a t-ball game in 95 degree heat! I am not sure how this will all go!
god bless you!