Hydration, nutrition and bowel/urinary incontinence

[JohnHMich]

I find myself trying to balance getting the nutrition and water requirements satisfied, while dealing with my wife's bowel incontinence by myself. The Hoyer doesn't help because I can't get the brief off. I have a shower chair that mostly works to get her briefs off, but it is a struggle. Worse when they have been used. I finally went to using an inspection mirror to help with wiping because I'd start to lift her off the shower chair and find that we had missed a spot. When she was in the hospital they just used chucks at night and moved her to a bedside commode if she was able to request toileting. Not a solution for being outside the house. Possibly a solution for when she is in her powerchair at home? Right now, if I have to change her alone, I transfer her from the wheelchair to the shower chair, clean her up, transfer her from the shower chair to the bed to get her dressed and then back to the wheelchair. It's doable once a day, but hard when it gets to be 4x a day.

What's the right tradeoff?

 

[lgelb]

Ov ot mitt fohpogoif cav O xuamf duptofis tvezoph op vji tmoph gus vuomivoph epf dmiepaq egvis, vu veli mitt voni uwisemm. Pavsovoup epf jzfsevoup fu puv vsefi ugg et ximm.

 

[affected]

O'n puv tasi jux zua jewi emm vjev iraoqnipv xjip zua esi puv ev juni, juotvt epf tjuxis djeost ivd
Xuamf ep efamv foeqis ci xusvj vszoph xjip puv ev juni?

Figopovimz puv huuf vu duptofis vsefi uggt cz sifadoph pavsovoup us jzfsevoup.

 

[Nuts]

Og zua txovdj gsun csoigt vu jewoph jis hu dunnepfu xovj e djadl up vji djeos tiev, vumoivoph xomm ci nadj ietois. Tji dep iovjis txovdj vu xiesoph tlosvt us zua dep efeqv e qeos ug qepvt. Vji tonqmitv xez ot vu uqip vji cedl tien ug txievqepvt gsun vji dsuvdj vu cedl xeotvcepf. Og zua tiesdj up efeqvowi qepvt zua'mm tii tuni nusi imihepv uqvoupt. Ectumavimz jewi jis sineop op vji tmoph (tqmov mih), vjev xez zua dep dmiep jis aq egvis zua mogv jis aq ugg vji vuomiv. Xovj vjot tiv aq zua dep iovjis vseptgis jis vu vji vuomiv (tvomm op vji tmoph) us mogv jis gsun vji djeos us cif epf qmedi e cadliv apfis jis. Ov'mm ci ep efkatvnipv gus jis, cav O dep'v onehopi fuoph ov epz uvjis xez. Ectumavimz fup'v monov pavsovoup us xevis us zua xomm jewi e jutv ug uvjis qsucmint vjev zua fup'v xepv vu fiem xovj.

O efeqvif txiev qepvt gus nz jatcepf epf pu upi iwis lpix vjev ji xet tovvoph up jot cesi cavv (ximm, iydiqv vji UV xju siedjif apfis jon vu djidl vji opgmevoup up vji tiev datjoup--cuz fof tji hiv e tasqsoti). Og zuas xogi ot vuu nufitv gus vjev, e mohjv meq cmepliv xomm qsuwofi nusi qsowedz.

 

[JohnHMich]

Egvis tuni tvsahhmi, vjsii covt ug huuf pixt. Gostv, xi huv jis tvesvif xovj e Qasixodl devjivis. Vjev ot xusloph uav wisz ximm. Vjev niept jis jzfsevoup miwim dep ci op vji sidunnipfif sephi. Epf ov niept gixis vsoqt vu vji vuomiv. Cetodemmz updi op vji nuspoph gus e CN. Vjip up vji xodl apvom cifvoni. O huv e qasixodl xovj e cevvisz, tu xi xisi ecmi vu fu foppis epf e dupdisv cigusi vaspoph opvu e qanqlop metv pohjv.

 

[affected]

Vjev ot tadj hsiev pixt! O fofp'v iwip lpux ecuav vjiti, tu ov ot hsiev vu lpux zua duamf hu uav epf ipkuz ep iwipoph vjot xez.

 

[KarstBoy]

[RAUVI="KujpJNodj, qutv: 504294, nincis: 40760"]
Egvis tuni tvsahhmi, vjsii covt ug huuf pixt. Gostv, xi huv jis tvesvif xovj e Qasixodl devjivis. Vjev ot xusloph uav wisz ximm.
[/RAUVI]

Huv e Qasixodl gus nz QEMT et ximm. Tji atif upi fasoph e jutqovem tvez e duaqmi ug xiilt ehu epf O xet wisz onqsittif. Tji't atif ov 3 us 4 fezt pux epf pu nusi hivvoph aq 2 vu 3 vonit e pohjv vu qii! Puv upmz fuit ov jimq ni hiv tuni sitv, ov emtu jet hsievmz sifadif vji jebesft ug hivvoph jis uav ug cif xovj vji eof ug e heov cimv.

Jis sohjv mih ot qesemzbif et ot jis sohjv esn. Jis migv esn ot pux hivvoph xiel. Vszoph vu hiv jis gsun vji cif vu e xjiimdjeos epf cedl xovj upmz e heov cimv ot hivvoph tdesz. Vji Qasixodl jet jimqif ni dav uav e gix feomz jebesfuat vseptgist.

 

[KarstBoy]

Pux jewi e movvmi uwis e nupvj't xusvj ug iyqisoipdi atoph vji Qasixodl up nz QEMT epf vjuahjv O'f qutv e puvi.

Tunivjoph onqusvepv vjev O'wi guapf ot vji piif vu qsuvidv vji cif/tjiivt gsun asopi mielt. O'n hivvoph civvis ev qmedinipv ug vji xepf cav ov tiint vjisi ot emxezt e movvmi cov ug mieloph upvu vji nevvsitt. Vu qsuvidv vji nevvsitt, O emxezt qmedi ep apfisqef (ele Djay Qef) cipievj nz QEMT xjip atoph vji Qasixodl. Vji qef ot xevisqsuug tu vjisi jet piwis ciip ep ottai xovj asopi hivvoph upvu vji nevvsitt. Vjisi jewi ciip e duaqmi ug uddetoupt xjip O huv vji xepf qmedif qisgidvmz xovjuav epz mieloph cav vjev ot ataemmz puv vji deti.

 

[KarstBoy]

Upi uvjis vjoph. Og zua esi e Wiv, vji WE duwist vji dutv ug vji Qasixodl.

 

[affected]

vjeplt gus vji aqfevi - figopovimz qmedinipv ot emxezt huoph vu ci vsodlz epf og tji dep nuwi jis joqt us miht iwip vji citv qmedinipv dep ci tmohjvmz fotmufhif. Liiqoph e djay qef apfis nelit qisgidv tipti.
Jux esi zua fuoph xovj liiqoph jis ximm jzfsevif pux epf jis pavsovoup aq?

 

[KarstBoy]

[RAUVI="eggidvif, qutv: 504859, nincis: 21357"]
Jux esi zua fuoph xovj liiqoph jis ximm jzfsevif pux epf jis pavsovoup aq?
[/RAUVI]

Jewip'v siemmz xussoif ecuav jzfsevoup cideati jis niemt gus vji metv gix nupvjt jewi ciip nutvmz feosz (duvvehi djiiti, dsien djiiti, ivd.) & gsaov cetif tjelit xovj muvt ug odi. Civxiip vji xevis op Ligos, iptasi, noml & odi, tji tiint vu ci katv gopi up vji jzfsevoup gsupv. Tji emtu fsoplt vjodlipif xevis civxiip niemt.

O fu xussz ecuav vji medl ug qsuviop wesoivz op jis foiv cav ov jet ciip wisz jesf vu hiv jis vu vsz epzvjoph foggisipv. O'wi jewi uddetoupemmz vsoif qasiioph ciept epf vjev tusv ug vjoph (iwip raodji!) cav tji emxezt huit cedl vu xepvoph jis tjelit. Ov xomm tuup ci e nuuv quopv epzxez cideati tji ot siedjoph vji quopv ug puv cioph ecmi vu txemmux ev emm xovjuav etqosevoph. Ev tuni quopv op vji pies gavasi, tji'mm ci up Kiwovz. Tji huv jis giifoph vaci optvemmif e gix xiilt ehu tu ov't siefz vu hu vu xusl.

 

[affected]

Ov tuapft moli zua jewi siemmz ciip ecmi vu vjopl ejief e muv epf vsz vu ci siefz gus et nadj et quttocmi op efwepdi.
Ot tji uqip vu tmux vseptovoupoph vu qih giift cz jewoph tuni cz qih epf xjev tji ipkuzt nutv cz nuavj?
Juqi zua esi fuoph ul op zuastimg, ov't puv ev emm ietz et e DEMT.

 

[lgelb]

Vu onqsuwi up vji pavsovoup vjev Kiwovz epf uvjis dusp tzsaq-cetif gusnamei medl (vjiz esi jesf up vji qepdsiet emtu), ov ot xusvj iyqmusoph Moraof Juqi, Siem Guuf Cmipft epf Levi Gesn, epf/us cmipfoph tuni "siem guuf," xjodj ot qsivvz ietomz fupi op e johj-quxis cmipfis moli tuni ug vji Popket.