My mom (diagnosed, June '07) refuses to answer questions or emails about where her heart and mind are concerning this disease. She's very depressed (I would be too!), but has started antidepressants. I feel like she's just waiting to die because she feels guilty about burdening her husband. The thing is, I think she's pretty far from dying, but refuses to "live". She could do so much more living with him and enjoy every minute. She gets very tired using the walker but refuses to use the power chair because it has a hair trigger and she's afraid of it. Won't even practice using it.
I'm feeling very frustrated. I want to support her, but honestly don't know what sort of support she needs. Does she want me to come sit with her? Does she want me to take her places? She won't answer even those simple questions. I think if she weren't such a devout Catholic, that she'd have killed herself by now. She feels that guilty about "getting sick"----like she brought it on herself. Now is not the time to protect us from the truth. We, her children, are all grown (42-51 yrs). Can you, the PALS, enlighten me. Why won't she tell us what her plans are? We've all said we support her, no matter what her plans.
Thanks for letting me vent,
Carla
I'm feeling very frustrated. I want to support her, but honestly don't know what sort of support she needs. Does she want me to come sit with her? Does she want me to take her places? She won't answer even those simple questions. I think if she weren't such a devout Catholic, that she'd have killed herself by now. She feels that guilty about "getting sick"----like she brought it on herself. Now is not the time to protect us from the truth. We, her children, are all grown (42-51 yrs). Can you, the PALS, enlighten me. Why won't she tell us what her plans are? We've all said we support her, no matter what her plans.
Thanks for letting me vent,
Carla