affected
Guru status reached
- Joined
- Apr 26, 2013
- Messages
- 16,096
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 05/2013
- Country
- OZ
- State
- AU
- City
- lala land
Nancy and weavie
When I first met my Chris in the early days he said to me very seriously - when you are on your death bed the only thing of value you possess is your memories of happiness you gave to others.
His first wife died of cancer when she was only 41, 8 years before ALS took Chris.
I tried to encourage his children to be as involved as possible - not just because I needed help, but more because I wanted that to comfort them once he was gone. I didn't want him to suddenly be gone and they be left with regrets that they stayed away.
In the last few months 2 of them did come see him more often. I know they will be so thankful of that now.
But none of them really 'helped'.
So when I see any CALS here that are the children of a PALS I want to just hug you all to pieces and tell you to do everything you can as you will carry it with you the rest of your lives! I don't mean you have to wipe bums or icky stuff necessarily, but be there, be involved, give your time cheerfully and willingly.
Weavie how is your mum?
When I first met my Chris in the early days he said to me very seriously - when you are on your death bed the only thing of value you possess is your memories of happiness you gave to others.
His first wife died of cancer when she was only 41, 8 years before ALS took Chris.
I tried to encourage his children to be as involved as possible - not just because I needed help, but more because I wanted that to comfort them once he was gone. I didn't want him to suddenly be gone and they be left with regrets that they stayed away.
In the last few months 2 of them did come see him more often. I know they will be so thankful of that now.
But none of them really 'helped'.
So when I see any CALS here that are the children of a PALS I want to just hug you all to pieces and tell you to do everything you can as you will carry it with you the rest of your lives! I don't mean you have to wipe bums or icky stuff necessarily, but be there, be involved, give your time cheerfully and willingly.
Weavie how is your mum?