Until this whole inheritance issue is cleared up, which may take until December, we have to watch our step. We absolutely do not want Ken to take any of our land. What happened is this: When my MIL married Ken, she had her will rewritten so that the 541 acres we live on was to be left to Tom and Jim (my hubby) only. Her husband wasn't supposed to have anything to do with it. However, when she died, we found out that as her husband, he has "marital interest" and can legally have one third of the property. Until the property is in our names, and the deed is filed with the courthouse, we have to be careful. Ken has a son who is a giant jerk, who would take advantage of anyone for anything. We definitely don't want him involved.
Ken and Tom's mom were married for only 7 years. There was some serious buyer's remorse on her part, but she married him for better or for worse and stuck by that. When she got sick last summer, Ken was rather complacent. When she had her stroke, I knew she was having a stroke, and he said, "Well, I have a call in at the doctor's office. I'll just wait for them to call back." I told him that she needed to go to the hospital NOW, not to wait. They finally did, but things could have been better if he hadn't been so clueless.
I think he has some dementia going on. I don't know if I should call the Office of the Aging or whatever to check on him. That might really tick his kid off and make him come after us. We have enough stress as it is without him breathing down our necks. As I said, until this property issue is sealed, I feel like we are stuck.