In working 24/7, there are 3 shifts of 8 hours, punctuated by 15 minute breaks every 2 hours and a half hour to an hour break for lunch. This works out to an 8.5 or 9 hour day for a worker. Security guards, (just one of the professions) rarely take the 15 minute breaks except to use the rest rooms. The "lunch" hour is done quickly or is often missed (on purpose) but often eating on the job is not frowned on.
To that end: when there is only one CALS is supporting a PALS, THERE IS NO BACKUP! As the PALS health and ability degrades, the time for the CALS for any other purpose decreases almost to the point of Zero!
So, a single support CALS has no support or backup UNLESS there is additional family or friends who are close by or in residence.
Calling in a care giver from a company is dicey at best. They do some basic (very basic) training but this is not to the standards needed and their training is often furthered by the resident CALS. SO - any CALS finding themselves facing this issue in the future, START TODAY writing the "how to" manual complete with Fire Escape Plan / Emergency Action Plan and location of items need throughout a typical day to include PALS needed items. Caregiver service is not cheap - lacking other support mechanisms.
Take for instance: Meals-On_Wheels: In Texas, if the PALS is on doctor ordered nutrition ( tube Fed), They do not qualify. If the CALS can drive, then the CALS is not "qualified" and support is unavailable. At some point the CALS will only able to leave the house taking the PALS to their next doctor's appointment.
Pedicure: At this point, the only Medicare funded foot care is for Diabetic patients. If the PALS is unable to perform this function and the CALS does not feel comfortable doing this, the cost is incurred by the patient.
The VA offers (it must be requested) Aid and Attendance - for veterans, not spouses. This also may kick in added support such as vehicles that can transport a power chair or modify the veterans residence to ADA standards. I think California has something similar for the general population and will pay a family member to care for a relative. Not in Texas.
A recent visit to a care facility showed no support personnel who were capable of providing patient support. Pretty much a human warehouse with meals provided - but no one who knew anything about tube feeding.
I missed the recent Zoom about anger management that is induced by this decreasing available time to the CALS. The PALS has an ongoing need for personal care. The decrease of time to the CALS, particularly time available for sleep, rest, maintenance produces a very cornered and frustrated critter we call CALS. I had one CALSa (assistant) who was good at the job and supported this CALS for 5 months! It took them over 30 days to recover after leaving!
My PALS is crushed socially as well as physically due to their inability to carry on conversations, do other work or even do basic tasks. It is crushing to me to see her decline, crushes me further when she cries because she is having trouble communicating or recognizes that her health has slipped yet again. In the interest of speeding up the process, I have tried to finish her sentences for her but this only upsets the PALS but this CAL is on a schedule and sitting around for 15 to 30 minutes to read "///////////////////" is as infuriating as someone trying to guess what is trying to be communicated!
IF one hires a company to come in and provide care, I would offer (1) write the training manual, (2) hire a day crew or person. It will take a few days to get them trained, up to speed to care for your PALS - and establish their ability to your satisfaction, It wont be cheap but in the long run, once you have confidence in them, you can leave the house to do any needed errands - sleep in - even take a nap. Those nights will still be hard at times but you will save money due to day rate versus night rate and you may actually be up when stores and or business are open so that you can take advantage of the workers presence - maybe even get to see your own doctor!