My ex- husband was diagnoised with bulbars ALs two years ago. since then our children ages 23, 19 and twins 16 have been his caregivers. it has gotton to the point where they fed him thru a tube. he has no upper body control. Last week he fell and layed on the floor for 5 hours til one of the 16year olds returned home to help him up. home care has not been a very good option. How can I help my children see it is ok to place their dad into a home. the stress on them is beginning to show. Not only that I know that he would recieve better care. It has been a very hard two years trying to be very supportive to them and their dad. Just so you know we took him on holidays with us so we could all spend some time together. I know now though this is getting to be too much for them to handle. He is also afraid of going into a home. Help !