- Jul 18, 2016
- Loved one DX
Hi. Thanks for being here. My ex, the father of our three kids, was just diagnosed with ALS. I cannot imagine anything worse for any of them. I'm here to look for advice in navigating a very awkward and strained situation. He is the father of our children, one is 23, and there are 18-yr old twins about to start college this fall. And I want to help. I know caregiving works best with many people pitching in. And his diagnosis comes after some pretty horrible things starting in 2003, which led to an eventual divorce a decade later, but include some pretty untrue and malicious things said about me to his family. I do love the ex parents very much, but there is now a wall, and the siblings have already told me I can't attend the funeral (much less help). I want what is best for the kids, and I don't think their way is it. Also, the money portion of it is awful and difficult to navigate, because I can't even talk about it, at least not yet. So many horrible things, and the main one is that I want to help, and I want my kids to be in a good place emotionally, without the family making a bad situation even more difficult. Is there anyone out there who has advice on this situation? Thank you again.