Jenny,
You might try your local "Hospice" center to see if they can help you with the loss of your child. Our local hospice does this, including pre-natal death. Also try comunity mental health as they may help with your loss.
As far as getting help for possible ALS you are at the right place - but being told you probably do not have ALS is "HELP." As you have been told you need to go a ALS clinic - find out for sure and then ask for help in dealing with it and the final outcome of death. If you do not have it, and it sounds like you don't, then you need to get on with the new baby coming, your life, and dealing with your physical symptoms. Everyone here has been helpful to you - I have seen many of your posts on different threads and even looked up all of your posts. I came to this thread for "Newbies", in order to tell you how to get on it, and I was glad to find your post here today.
This is the right spot for your initial inquiry. Go to the ALS clinic. I am very sorry you are in this very sad and yet happy situation. It is a lot of emotional weight, but you have deal with each issue, death of baby, new baby, physical health. Best Wishes, Peg