Season Greetings to all. Almost every morning I try to read the latest threads, it's helps me stay grounded and with it instead of feeling like I am floating through a nightmare by myself. To know that you are not alone in your struggles is truly a comfort. Our next wave of company is here then they leave and the next arrive and so on for awhile sos chin up deep breath and I will survive this as well. Well meaning as everyone is it is more work for me and more stress on my husband and there is nothing worse than having family members show up thinking they know more and I am not doing it right. Friends who ahve not seen him in awhile thinking I am keeping him shut in instead of letting him live the most don't understand how far along he is and that he really can't do these things anymore. The biggest problem at the moment is getting him to discuss his living will and to get a DNR. He says that I will know what he wants which is true but I also know that there is family who will diagree with it and I want it in writtting, also he is thinking of not using a feeding tube, has anyone else refused this? Thanks for letting me rant and I hope the new year brings lots of love to all.