SLAUGHTER1555
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Jul 12, 2015
- Messages
- 107
- Reason
- CALS
- Diagnosis
- 05/2015
- Country
- US
- State
- Oh
- City
- cincinnati
today i tried to have the i need some me time talk with my husband and it didnt go well. I need to go back to work because we have so many bills! We barely make rent and car payment and thats it no money for food or anything else. He doesnt want a nurse aide to come he just wants me. We sit in this house all day long unless its the store smh I was involve in all my church activites and now i barely make it to church. Today was so frustrating he cried i cried then he yelled he wants to die! Ughhhh! We only been at this since May 2015 and he has deteriorated fast in some areas smh. Then to top it all of our intimate life has been killed smh that has been hard on me I try not to make it a big deal but hes like 20yrs older me 41 him 60 and before the disease he had kinda slowed down our intimate life. Hope this is not TMI but i have dreams i have sneaked and looked at porn then i feel so bad cuz that is a sin and then i find myself repenting smh but in my heart i kinda dont feel bad so thats not real repentance smh lord have mercy on me! I need a break i want to just get out and breathe but i feel so bad if i leave him. There is no one to come and sit he can not be left alone at all. SMH! I have even thought about cheating lord that is so terrible how can one think like that in such a bad time. I dont mean to but it just comes across my mind. There is no one to talk to about this part of the disease without someone judging. I know its not right but i cant ignore that it comes across my mind lord forgive me and have mercy! today i just wanted to leave! but i love him way too much for that. He is so afraid of being in this house even if he has an aide he said he 'd rather be dead then sit in this house all day. He use to be a very active person UC games and football games and just out and about. Now nothing and his speech and walking all taken aways smh! This has been a day! And lets not talk about the kids which are his adult kids everyone have there thing going on but they do try but they are not here so they really have no idea what we deal with. Then there is the life insurance thing smh lol what life insurance well not a lot of that and what there is has a reduction at age 65! Of course all this was before we got married from a previous marriage! guess what you cant change it either ha ha! and to buy more life insurance there is the underwriting that says you have to have it for 2yrs! well what if he doesnt last that long money wasted oh but wait a minute we have no money to even buy freaking life insurance! :shock::shock::shock::shock::shock::-x:-x:-x if this post had a yell button know that i am pushing it right now! this sucks so bad! and Im tired! sigh! ok thanks for listening but one thing i do know is God is in control and he sees and he knows and its all in his timing. Lord have mercy on me and forgive me and help me in Jesus name!