Final Arrangements

[lgelb]

Sharon,

Yes, you can. Just like Mike, I did all of Larry's arrangements. In fact, I actually didn't choose the donation site or arrange for cremation until after Larry's death (just-in-time is my middle name). I signed everything as me and e-mailed forms to the crematorium and NDRI accordingly.

But you can be more organized and do everything in advance...

 

[gooseberry]

My pals will be buried in a national cemetary. He wants to roadtrip so he can see several he considers possibilities. He said he wants to get a feel for the different sites.

 

[vzandt]

We donated my dad to research at Dartmouth. My mom will be donated to. Their decision . They came and took my dad the night he died. And they kept him for two years. Then sent his cremated remains to my mom. That spring they had a service for all the family's of the people who "helped them". It was really quite beautiful and touching. My dad would have approved.

 

[Barbie]

my husband refused to believe that he was dying anytime soon so we had no official plans in place. I of course had thought the whole thing thru since he had stated that he did not care what I did. I actually had an appointment scheduled at the local funeral home the day after he died--and honestly it wasn't that hard to plan right at the end since I had thought so much about what I wanted for him. It was sorta nice--all my kids were with me and we did it together. so if it doesn't happen in advance it isn't that big of a deal.

I would have liked to have donated him to science and I think he would have like that too, but by the end of his life I just didn't have the energy to look in to it.

 

[turnip]

Im sorry. It must be so hard to worry about this when he won't give input. Hope this thread gives you some comfort to deal with what you have to do.