jonico
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Feb 21, 2017
- Messages
- 157
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 12/2014
- Country
- US
- State
- NY
- City
- Central
I was reading a few of the past caregiver posts and I can't get Jrzygrl's 'Still no words' post out of my head. Two steps forward, one step back. I guess I have a question for all of you who are in this group. After about six years of having to be super organized and proactive and essentially developing a routine that was very similar each day even though it was constantly evolving, I'm having the hardest time focusing. I thought I would dive in and get our house organized and throw away a lot of things and to a certain extent I have. But I feel like I have hit a bit of a wall, and I just find it all pretty overwhelming. I also feel like I am caught in an endless cycle of reminiscing in my mind. We have thousands of photos, split between albums and digital, and lots of loose ones. I went through most of them and threw a quite a lot out, but I didn't make a dent. I envisioned paring them down to substantially fewer albums. Similar with all kinds of other memorabilia, like old letters, journals, things from when the kids were younger, etc. I have gotten some important things done. But I still feel kind of paralyzed about trying to sell Nicole's PWC and our vehicle. And I generally feel like my house is still pretty cluttered and disorganized. I have an appointment to speak with a Hospice grief counselor in a couple weeks, so that should help
So here is my question for all of you... Did any of you experience similar, or are you still feeling this way? Do you have any advice? I did start with bitesize chunks and that went well with the main things that had to go relating to ALS, but now I feel like I am just moving the same things around all the time, and wasting loads of time. Part of it is I feel kind of like I am a 'memory-hoarder', which makes it really hard to throw out anything that reminds me of Nicole.
Appreciate your thoughts...Jon
So here is my question for all of you... Did any of you experience similar, or are you still feeling this way? Do you have any advice? I did start with bitesize chunks and that went well with the main things that had to go relating to ALS, but now I feel like I am just moving the same things around all the time, and wasting loads of time. Part of it is I feel kind of like I am a 'memory-hoarder', which makes it really hard to throw out anything that reminds me of Nicole.
Appreciate your thoughts...Jon