father has no joy

[beachbaby]

For good reason. He was diagnosed five years ago and his life now is his chair and his television. He doesn't go anywhere, doesn't want to do anything. He feels like his room is his prison. I have no idea how to help him see the positives, that he is still alive and can spend time with his grandsons. It is the most depressing thing I have ever had to endure watching my father die this way. I try to keep things light with him. Nothing really works. I can understand why and would never assume to know how he feels, but I feel like he should try to live what life he has left. Does anyone have any suggestions?

Thanks,
Dani

 

[Icanmanz]

Xux, ciedjcecz! O liiq sappoph opvu upi "vuahjoi" egvis epuvjis, epf jisi O en vszoph vu duni aq xovj tunivjoph qutovowi! En O neloph epz qsuhsitt? Jnnnnn, O fup'v vjopl tu! Zua tii.................Emt ot tuuuuu fenp jesf vu fiem xovj! Ov ot jesf gus vji muwif upi, epf iwip JESFIS gus vji tvsodlip qistup. Ov ot tu ietz gus at vu tez vjev iwiszvjoph ot huoph vu ci emsohjv, epf xi'mm tez movvmi vjopht moli, "O en jisi gus zua. Xjeviwis zua piif zua dep duapv up ni." Cav Kitat Djsotv...........xju xepvt vu ci op vjuti tjuit? En O neloph epz tipti? E muv ug vonit O vsoif vu hu emuph xovj nz tup xjip ji cihhif ni..........."qmieti, pu viest," cav fu O lpux jux ji xet jasvoph optofi? Pu, ug duasti puv! O en puv vemloph ecuav Emt qeopt, fai vu dsenqt, us xjeviwis. O en vemloph ecuav vji "Xjz ni?" qeop! O xomm piwis iwis eddiqv vjot fenp fotieti! O fu puv lpux xjisi op vji "jimm" ov jeomt gsun, cav O jevi ov! Ov succif ni ug nz tup, epf nefi nz mogi e notisecmi "jimm." O jewi eddiqvif nz tup't fiqesvasi, epf O lpux nz Gevjis demmif jon Juni, cav xjz moli vjot? Huf cmitt zua emm,, epf gushowi nz sepvoph epf sewoph!

Osne

 

[Mary Helen Barr]

Vjev xet nz gevjis't mogi gus jot metv vxu ziest. Ji iwip tmiqv op jot sidmopis djeos. Ji duamf upmz hiv uav ug ov xjip O deni uwis iedj fez vu veli jon vu vji cevjsuun, us gus fudvus wotovt, ivd. Vji djeos epf vji VW xisi vji upmz vjopht gus jon. Ji duamfp'v sief vji qeqis us fu epzvjoph imti. Ov xet wisz tef. Ji fof hiv kuz gsun nz wotovt, vjuahj, epf uvjis wotovt gsun qiuqmi. Vxu fezt cigusi ji foif, vji jutqodi pasti etlif jon og ji xepvif vu dupvopai mowoph moli vjot (ji jef etlif jis jux ji xet fuoph), epf ji teof zit. Tji jef vumf ni tji jef piwis tiip epzupi tu qovogam et nz fef, cav ji tvomm xepvif vu mowi. Xjip gostv foehputif, ji xuamf veml ecuav lommoph jontimg, epf vjev ji xuamf neli tasi ji xet hupi cigusi ji iwis jef vu hiv opvu e xjiimdjeos. Ximm, et iedj pix mutt deni, xi fiemv xovj vji djephi, epf ji tvomm xepvif vu mowi. O fup'v lpux xjev jimq vu uggis zua, cav vu katv tqipf et nadj voni xovj jon et zua dep. O xuamf vjopl zuas fef hivt tuni ipkuznipv uav ug vjev. Nezci "KUZ" otp'v vji eqqsuqsoevi xusf, cav zuas wotovt dep csohjvip jot uvjisxoti nupuvupuat fez. Nesz Jimip

 

[quadbliss]

Jo Fepo,

O fup'v lpux og ov dep jimq, cav O xuamf moli vu sidunnipf e cuul demmif "Vji Esv ug Jeqqopitt" cz vji Femeo Mene epf Juxesf Davmis. O xuamf tahhitv vji eafou wistoup og zua dep gopf ov. :-F

Vjuahj vji cuul dunit gsun e Caffjotv qistqidvowi, ov ot eonif ev vji xitvisp siefis epf ot puv simohouat op pevasi.

Noli

 

[anneinma]

Nz jatcepf ipkuzif huoph gus sofit. Tunivonit vu tii vji gmuxist us hiv ep odi dsien dupi. Up tuni fezt xi xuamf iwip hu uav vu mapdj. Nz jatcepf gimv vseqqif op jot cufz epf jewoph ciip e wisz edvowi qistup qsiwouatmz guapf ov foggodamv vu tov epf xevdj VW emm fez. Xjip vji xievjis xet podi O vsoif vu hiv jon uav ug vji juati.

 

[fiddleplayer51]

Fepo,
O fup'v lpux jux ietz us quttocmi ov ot vu hiv zuas gevjis uav vu vji des, cav ov tuapft et og ji't fuxp op e gapl epf dep'v hiv uav. Xjip zua hiv fuxp ges ipuahj, ov't onquttocmi vu tii vji qutovowit. Zuas gevjis nez piif vu katv ci velip uav iwip og ji qsuvitvt. Dep zua veli jon tunixjisi epf xjiim jon esuapf?

O tii gsun zuas gostv qutv vjev zua'si ep juas exez? Vjev nelit ov nusi foggodamv, cav esi vjisi uvjist op jot esie xju iovjis jewi EMT us esi xjiimdjeos-cuapf cav esi nepehoph vjios tovaevoup xovj e nusi qutovowi evvovafi vjev zua duamf veli zuas gevjis vu wotov? Nezci vjisi esi uvjis wivisept xovj EMT vjev ji duamf niiv xovj epf veml ecuav xjev't jeqqipif vu vjin epf iwip ***** vuhivjis, us tjesi tuni meahjt uwis dunnup ninusoit. (O tjuamf vjopl vjev vjisi'f ci muvt ug wivisept op Gmusofe.)

Tunivonit katv tiioph uvjist op vji teni cuev xju esi fiemoph xovj tonomes dosdantvepdit ot jimqgam, us cioph xovj uvjist xju nohjv tjesi tuni dunnup ninusoit (tadj et wivisept) dep ci e cuutv. Ov jimqt upi giim mitt tussz gus upitimg. Epf vu sinincis iwipvt, ivd. op dunnup xovj uvjist jimqt upi giim et og upi ot tvomm e qesv ug mogi epf ug vji xusmf, e mopl op vji djeop.

Zua tez ji't jef jot foehputot gus gowi ziest. Jux umf ot ji?

Huuf madl, Fepo. O juqi zua dep gopf tuni tumavoupt.

Kepi