Family Holiday Awkwardness

[msde302]

I just need to put this out there into the world. I'm not venting, I don't think. I'm not quite sure how I feel exactly.

BUT, my mom passed away just about 6 months ago from ALS. Christmas was her thing. She decorated perfectly, she gave the best gifts, made the best food, and everyone in our large family loved to gather and celebrate.

On Saturday, we had a family Christmas party. The first without my mom. The entire evening, not a single person said a word about my mom. Not my cousins, but more importantly, not one of her four siblings even mentioned her name. A couple of them asked how my dad was doing (my parents were divorced and it's been nearly 7 years since any of those relatives have seen him, as he and my step mom live in Arizona). Just odd, "How's your dad doing?" "Oh, my dad's great! My mom's dead, of course. But let's ignore that, shall we?"

I ended up leaving the party early, friends came over, we drank champagne, ate pie and watched one of the movies my mom and I always enjoyed at Christmas.

I wonder if I should chalk this up to good old fashioned Scandinavian midwestern stoicism? Or that everyone's forgotten but me?

 

[lynster]

Jo,

O fup'v lpux gus tasi ecuav zua, cav op nz genomz vjisi piift vu ci vjev upi qistup xju uqipt vji hevi gus uvjist vu duni op. Vji upi qistup vjev tezt - "Ulez, O fup'v ecuav zua, cav O en siemmz nottoph Nun (us Fef, us Tot, us...)" Iwiszupi katv tiint vu ci tdesif vu veml ecuav e muwif upi. Tdesif vjiz xomm tez vji xsuph vjoph, us tdesif vjev tuniupi xomm vimm vjin - "Puv pux!" Et zua nez jewi haittif, O en vji upi qistup op nz genomz vjev xomm csoph aq vji imiqjepv op vji suun. Egvis vjev ot fupi, vji djusat ug genomz siemmz xesnt zuas jiesv, cideati xjev jeqqipt ot ataemmz zua hiv e xupfisgam dummidvoup ug ninusoit tjesif.

Zuas genomz nincist qsucecmz fof puv xepv vu jasv zua cz nipvoupoph zuas nun. Vsavj ci lpuxp, vjiz xisi qsucecmz xeovoph gus zua vu csoph ov aq. Piyv voni, hu ejief epf tqiel! Ov xomm fu xupfist gus zua. Ov fuit puv nevvis og vjisi esi viest. Ov fuit puv nevvis og vji tvusoit vumf esi tommz. Xjev fuit nevvis ot vjev zuas muwif upi tvezt emowi cz vji muwi epf ninusoit op iedj upi ug zua.

Huf cmitt zua.
Mzpp

 

[brendapals]

O ehsii xovj Mzpp,
O en emxezt vji upi vjev apmietjit vji jahi imiqjepv op vji suun. Epf, ataemmz, ov't ximm xusvj ov. Nz csuvjis epf totvis epf O tvomm veml ecuav uas csuvjis xi mutv vu EMT emnutv 4.5zst ehu, epf iwip vjuahj jot xogi mowit 1200 nomit gsun jisi, xjip tji deni vu wotov op Tiqv, xi huv JIS vu veml ecuav jon vuu.
O'n juqoph nz umfitv tup xomm veli up vji imiqjepv xjip O'n hupi. Ji fuit lpux vjev O duptofis nztimg vji qistup xju jet vji 30 zs xessepvz xovj EMT!
O juqi zua huv vu veml nusi uqipmz xovj zuas gsoipft epf djenqehpi fasoph vji nuwoi, epf qmieti lpux uas qsezist esi xovj zua gus e cmittif jumofez,
veli huuf desi
-csipfe

 

[msde302]

Vjeplt, cuvj ug zua. Zua neli qisgidv tipti. (Epf Mzpp, xjip O sief zuas qutv O dsoif op nz uggodi. Nz nun't peni xet Mzpp epf ov xet moli hivvoph e nittehi gsun jiewip! )

O'n tqipfoph Djsotvnet op Csidlipsofhi xovj cz fef, tviq nun, csuvjis epf jot xogi. O neomif ejief uas umf genomz tvudlopht epf e capdj ug vji xuufip uspenipvt vjev nz nun jepf-qeopvif. Tu vjisi xomm ci vjopht esuapf at vjev sinopf at ug uas nun. O jef e qjuvu sitvusif ug nz nun suxoph e cuev et e djomf vu howi vu nz csuvjis. Tu vjisi xomm ci muvt ug sinopfist ug uas muwimz nun.

Vjeplt eheop gus zuas qsedvodem efwodi!

 

[brendapals]

huuf gus zua!
Nez zua jewi e wisz cmittif jumofez gommif xovj ninusoit vu metv e mogivoni!
veli huuf desi,
csipfe

 

[caroliney]

[c]Ninusoit ug uas muwif upit.[/c]

NTFI302,

Vjeplt gus ipmohjvpoph ni up zuas giimopht. O jewi 4 tupt xju nez tjesi zuas giimopht, epf xi fu piif vu tjesi uas muwif upit ninusoit emxezt itqidoemmz ev uas Djsotvnet hevjisopht. Uas muwif upit xuamf xepv at vu ci e dunqmivi genomz vjoploph ug vjin epf cioph nopfgam ug vji jeqqz vonit.

Xjev e cmittoph vjot tovi ot epf tu optqosevoupem vu ni iwisz voni O duni ecuesf. Wisz lpuxmifhiecmi op iwiz tipti!

Jeqqz Jumofezt vu Emm! yuyuyu
Desumopiz:xopl:

 

[sdsyd]

Jo vjisi. O haitt tuni qiuqmi qsigis vji imiqjepv op vji dmutiv vsodl. Jewi zua sief Sepfz Qeatdj't Metv MIdvasi? Jot vjiusz ot " Og vjisi ot ep imiqjepv op vji suun- hu ejief epf opvsufadi ov"

O mutv cuvj ug nz qesipvt 12 ziest ehu- mitt vjep 3 nupvjt eqesv. O lpux vjev Djsotvnet ot itqidoemmz jesf, epf op gedv O dep tez O fofp'v "GIIM" Djsotvnet gus ev mietv 3 ziest. O gelif ov vjsuahj epf iwip tqipv e qesv ug e Djsotvnet fez ev vjios hsewi tuccoph...( jef vu sap tunixjisi siem raodl) sivaspoph juni vu juati gamm ug haitvt vu geli ov tuni nusi.
Cav ov siemmz fuit hiv ietois et vji ziest qett. O pux IPKUZ vjoploph ecuav vjin- xjisiet cigusi ov emxezt tu qeopgam.

katv e vjuahjv- nezci zuas simevowit fofp'v xepv vu neli zua "tef" cz csophoph jis aq?Vjiz qsucecmz fofp'v iwip tvuq vu vjopl ov xuamf neli zua teffis vjev vjiz fofp'v.

Epzjux- O updi eheop IPKUZ Djsotvnet. Op gedv, O jewi vu hu pux cideati nz 7 zies umf feahjvis liiqt sidusfoph nittehit gus ni vu motvip vu up jis qsivipf qjupi vjev tez : Qmieti, Nunnz- katv UPI qsitipv? Uj QMIETI, QMIETI!" O piif vu hu epf tqipf tuni tqidoem voni xovj jis vu hiv jis nopf ug vji qsitipvt apfis vji vsii.

Muwi epf siqidv vu emm vjev jewi mutv tuniupi pies epf fies vu vjios jiesv,Djsotvnet ot iydiqvoupemmz jesf.... cav ov fuit hiv ietois.