EJC, I think it will be clearer if you speak as other CALS do in terms of "my wife" or "my PALS," that's all. If the issue is caregiving, you can start a new thread any time in "Current Caregivers" and if you would like responses from both PALS/CALS, you can post in General Discussion. And of course you are welcome to respond in appropriate threads (not the PALS-only thread, for example).
Hope this helps.