There is no one size fits all, and we are all so different. It is why I find a place like this is so effective - all the different sizes can be compared to your own situation and you may find what fits by seeing the differences here
Many CALS take an AD and find it incredibly beneficial and should never be made to feel inadequate for doing so just because another CALS didn't take one.
For me, I reached a point where I felt like I was constantly screaming inside. That is still the only way I can describe it. I went on a low dosage of zoloft and I felt completely 'myself' but minus the screaming. I still felt everything, I was not in any kind of fog or numbness or haze. I still felt so sad, terrified, and even angry that this was all happening, but I could keep my nose above the water level.
I also saw a counsellor that really worked well with me, and I talked and vented and ranted, and got amazing tips here and on a private CALS fb group.
So for me it was a combination of all those things that helped me with that emotional side.
And some days just are better than others - the tide of grief does ebb and flow and there are some huge crashing waves out of the blue too. That I think is where, for me, places where I could talk about it with others that understood really made a huge difference.
I hope you can find the right combination of supports, because this sure as sh!t ain't an easy ride!