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Hi Marcia;
I ordered that book today from Amazon.ca. I hope I get the same from it that you did. Thanks for letting me know about it. I am sorry to hear that your sister is not getting what she needs from her support group. I was hoping that when my friend was ready, that would be a great help for her. Maybe it is different for everyone. She is not ready for any of that right now. She's afraid of meeting other PALS, and seeing what will happen to her. She has an Appointment next week for another EMG to see if what she has is PLS or ALS. The first doctor diagnosed her with ALS, and the second with PLS. She is afraid of the next crash. She knows that if it comes back ALS that she will have to face it and think about telling her kids. I will have to then tell my kids. Oh, this is such a huge drag. I just don't want to have to do this.! I am a really happy person in general and have always been. This is so hard. I appreciate you listening to me, (all of you). I have read so much that you have all wrote and feel so much support.
Marcia, your entry was the first I read. I under stood everything you said.
My friend called me today and she was so angry. She asked for some small help from someone in her family and they said no. She was so angry that all of us could go back into denial and live our lives and she couldn't. I didn't tell her that none of us are ever going to be the same now. She was just angry and having a bad day. The kids were home from school and her husband went back to work. Marcia, how often do you visit now? Are you visiting more? Does your sister want you there more? I think you said you were an hour away, so am I. I am going to see her once a week during the week for now. The kids were asking too many questions on why Auntie Barbie was over so much. They don't know anything yet. Does your sister have children? One of my friends said to pace myself. I am still working fulltime as you are. I feel that I should keep working and save for now, while she is still walking. I hope we will be able to take some more trips together too. maybe, I should try to find something part time now.
I am sorry this is so long. I just need to get this off of my chest. i am trying so hard to make the right choices and say the right things.
Marcia how long has your sister known about her illness? Can she still walk? The magnolia tree must have been hard on her. My husband and her husband are handy too. I have made note of the ramp website. Thanks.
Well, Thanks again. my thoughts are with you. I have read in some threads of the friendships made on this forum last for years and I am sure we will be here the same.
Barb