Catching up

[Narrowminded]

Well, It's been too long since I caught up again. Starting a new thread.

Life has been busy prepping for my new littlest one to arrive. Jan is fast approaching. Shower preparations are underway. I know that it will again be a bittersweet arrival, as DH dreamed of grands since my oldest was early teens, These are the times I still struggle.

I can't believe next month will be 6 years. Where did that time go?

I'm still running the biz, wishing I could retire. It is a hard place to be. I think healing could take another leap, if I didn't have the constant daily reminders. This business was his baby.

Many people have told me I should find someone to at least spend time with. I would like that, as I do get lonely. However, I still have a fear of caregiving again and the older I get, the more likely that scenario could happen. After 14 years w/Brian, I really do have a PTSD type reaction at the thought of it. However, I'm really stuck as to where to find that 'someone'. I don't go to bars, and work is also not the place. No single men there anyway. I'm involved with church, but have only seen married couples there. So I press on.

I hope everyone is well. I miss you all, you were such a big part of my life for many years.

Hugs,

 

[Mary2]

Sue, I did meet my husband in a church! I don't plan to date, but I do church hop! If there is a grief group or book study or meditation I email the minister and ask if I can join in. They always say yes! For a while I was going to a Single's group one of the churches was sponsoring. If I can afford it, I have made a nominal to small donation to a church where I have participated in an activity. I have never felt pressure to do this!

 

[Firefighter58]

Sorry that I can't help you, I married the girl next door and we are still together after 53 years. Iam in a nursing home now but my wife still comes to see me every other day.
Al

 

[JAM]

I will be with my husband 40 years next year. I sure hope he has long slow progression like you Firefighter and we get 53 years. He is newly dx. What medications/ supplements do you think may have helped with your slow progress? God bless you & your wife.

 

[Narrowminded]

Mary2, the church I attend now is different than the one I did w/DH. I don't know of any other Bible studies around here.

Firefighter, I'm very happy you have had 53 year with your DW. We were together 39 years when he passed at 56.

Jam, I don't think there is anything specific to slow their progress, it seems to just be the straw that is pulled. I'll be praying you have many more years together.

Hugs

 

[Firefighter58]

JAM the only medication I take are two perscibed by the als doctor, as far as my longevity is concerned I am just lucky I guess.
Al

 

[JAM]

Your wife is lucky too

 

[Narrowminded]

I wish you both the best.

Today was a bit rough this morning, would have been DH's 62nd BD. These special days are still hard.

Hugs

 

[Narrowminded]

Hoping everyone is ok.

Nov is a busy month here, with a rough ending. However, due to necessity, DD's baby shower will be on DH's death day, maybe it will bring more happiness to that day.

Have a great week everyone.

 

[Mary2]

Quiet month here, new toy poodle bringing joy. Holidays will be quiet. I am planning on making a meal using Martha Stewart recipes. And yes I have taken 2 of those weight loss shots...the compounded ones that may soon be taken off the market. Have hired an organizer to help me declutter faster. It is far less emotional than doing it alone. There are boxes and boxes to go through. He kept every letter from anyone.

 

[Narrowminded]

I wish you much luck with your decluttering project. It's definitely less emotional to do it with someone totally disconnected from the whole thing.

I'm glad you will be making a meal for yourself. My Christmas will be very quiet as neither of my kids will be in town. DS will be at his wife's home with his kids. DD will be at her home out of necessity as baby is due Mid-Jan. It's ok, I think I might enjoy a quiet Christmas. I will probably be with DH's family Christmas Eve.

Hugs

 

[Narrowminded]

Checking in. Yesterday was 6 years, hard to believe it's been that long. However, the day was a more joyful one with having DD's baby shower. I hope it can remain joyful now. Although I know it will still mark the end of one thing and the beginning of another.

I wish you all a wonderful Holiday season.

Hugs

 

[lgelb]

Same to you, Sue!
Glad you could mark the season with such a happy event.
I marked Larry's 10th last month and agree that the time flies, but the memories really don't (at least for me), which seems like a good thing overall.

 

[Narrowminded]

Yes, Laurie the memories hang around, both the good and the bad. However, they seem to ease.

Hugs