jpsugar123
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- Jan 27, 2008
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- St Louis
My mom was diagnosed with ALS in May 2008. She has since lost all mobility except eye movement. She's on a feeding tube/vent/catheter. Up until this week everything was going well. The family as well as nurses were taking care of her. I definitely did my fair share of helping my mom because I wanted to and out of pure love for her. Before I vent, I wanted to let you know I am 31yrs old My entire family(father, sister, aunt,uncle) spent Easter bashing me and my husband. This week my aunt lashed out at me telling me I am not helping enough(I work fulltime at a private school where teachers help run all the duties at the school along with classroom duties). I clean their house, take total care of my mom's beauty/bathing needs, shave her legs, shop for my parents, go to the library and check out audio books for my mom, bring over DVDs to watch with her, do the laundry, take care of my parents' dog, etc. My aunt accused me and told me that the entire family thinks I am selfish and I do not do anything to help out with my mom. I spend all day Saturdays with her as well. In the summer when I am not teaching, I do all of the above, plus take care of her 5 days a week. I also take care of my parents' yard! My aunt yelled at me because I had to do a 5 day summer camp last summer as part of my master's degree in education. My aunt also told me that I am dead to her. She said that my MOTHER said it was OK that she yelled at me the other day?!? My aunt also told me I should just move to where my husband's family lives. I just feel totally blind-sided by my family's horrific behavior. I then informed my father that I am taking a "time-out" from the entire family and that maybe they will all realize how much I did do out of LOVE for my mother.