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- Sep 16, 2014
- Messages
- 40
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
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- US
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- PA
- City
- PITTSBURGH
I am about to begin my second round as a caregiver. My mom is the 3rd of her siblings to experience this ALS monster. I was the caregiver for her sister who passed in 2010. She only lived 10 month after diagnosis. So needless to say I am terrified of walking through this again.
But the real problem is the guilt of round one. My aunt was in respiratory distress and had made the decision from the beginning not to use a ventilator. She told me and her dr over and over not to put her on a ventilator. Although she had a daughter that lived across the country, because I was her caregiver the dr's consulted with me when she went into distress and I had to be the one to tell them not to use the vent. Even though it was her decision I still carry a tremendous amount of guilt that we didnt do all that we could to save her life.
They began giving her morphine and I felt like I was putting her down like an animal. And now my mother....bulbar onset. I cant do this again!
But the real problem is the guilt of round one. My aunt was in respiratory distress and had made the decision from the beginning not to use a ventilator. She told me and her dr over and over not to put her on a ventilator. Although she had a daughter that lived across the country, because I was her caregiver the dr's consulted with me when she went into distress and I had to be the one to tell them not to use the vent. Even though it was her decision I still carry a tremendous amount of guilt that we didnt do all that we could to save her life.
They began giving her morphine and I felt like I was putting her down like an animal. And now my mother....bulbar onset. I cant do this again!