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Thank you all for your advice!

Dick, My brother's only concern is that his life will be interrupted and he will have to "deal" with her! He will be dead before he thanks me for anything! LOL

I spoke to my mom and the following has transpired in her mind:

My son stole a diamond necklace from her bedroom, in which he's never been.
I had an altercation with one of her neighbor's, whom I've never met.
She went out on Thanksgiving (NOT) and arrived home with her friends to hear someone in her house. It was my family and my brother's family and there were no cars in the driveway (NOT).

There was no convincing her that these events never happened. She got quite snippy with me and said she had to hang up. I had expressed my concerns and asked her to see her doctor and mention memory loss and events happening in her mind that had not transpired (dementia?).

I'm going to call the "lead" friend of hers and tell them to put me on the "do not call list" for "first response!" They have my brother's number, they can use it! They will totally understand! ;-)
 
CJ... just a heads up.... she will NEVER tell her doctor any of this. Your mom seems to have a good support system... perhaps one of her friends can go with her and slip the nurse a note. OR this is what we did with my mom: a family member can call the doctor and say "You don't need to violate doctor/patient confidentiality by responding to any of this, but this is what's been going on....." Good luck.
 
CJ, I know how stressful this is for you and pray you will stick to your guns and force your brother to step up to the plate.

My mom passed away last month and suffered frontal lobe dementia. For years she saw people and heard noises that were so very real to her. I always went with her to her doc appts. and she told the doc that I just wanted people to think she was crazy so I said there was no one there when I? knew better.

It can be funny -- she wondered why she was the last to know I was pregnant! I am 63 years old! When I reminded her of that she spit back - "Well, that is another reason you embarass me." At the time I cried from seeing her that way and having her mad at me. Now it is kind'a funny.

Point is - the stress speeded up this blasted disease, and while things have leveled out, I am not as good as I should be -- stress is a killer!

Hang in there and stay strong,

Hugs,

Diane
 
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Diane when my mom was getting bad, I took her to church with me one sunday, the preacher and his wife always stood and shook hands with everyone leaving...My mom told my preacher"Ya'll are getting another preacher next week aren't you, that one wasn't very good" I just smiled at him, but that is funny now.
 
Another thing to remember about dementia... no matter the variety... is that they are not "lying" to the doctors. They truly believe people are stealing from them, watching them, hiding in the other room, or what always will be a favorite of mine... that there are giant blue cat people upstairs (we'd left the Avatar DVD on the table). Since these things are real to them they see no reason to report them to the doctor, any more than they'd tell a police officer their knee hurt!
 
Thank you all, so much, for enlightening me! I had no idea.
 
Ain't life grand CJ? My mother's side of the family always planned on dying young (I'm the same way). My father's side expects to live forever. We're batting .500 or so, on both sides. I just hope to go before my mind does (I think it might already be too late, LOL).

Dick
 
Paranoia is definitely a sign of Alzheimer's. When my MIL was in the nursing home, she would call me and tell me that my husband keeps taking all of her money and that he was stealing things from her so she had to hide everything from him. Usually she would say that he was at the nursing home in the hallway and she would keep telling me to hold on, so she could check to see if he was coming back toward her room. Meanwhile my DH was here with me, not even ABLE to walk! You do not need all of this on top of caring for your husband. Be firm!
 
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