Yes, I know Colleen not to have a trach nor a paralyzed diaphragm. However, I have helped PALS with and without either.
I always volunteer to correspond directly with P/CALS as per above, and at that point start with pics of existing settings and info such as height/weight/lung hx/perceptions of existing settings/machine data, with titration, for all the reasons you mention. Several of these questions are posted on my profile for discussing with providers if one chooses.
Many PALS have a backup rate that is set too high, which is one way that synchrony between their natural respiratory drive and the machine is often lost. Once synchrony is achieved through whatever settings the machine has available, the trigger rate for a comfortably low backup rate drops dramatically. When the machine is too basic for this to happen, I recommend and help source a more advanced model and have done so for P/CALS worldwide.
But many people do not even know that they have settings that can be adjusted, and noting generally that these settings exist is hardly malpractice. I take individual settings off line for the very reason that they cannot be generalized, and if you read the respiratory sticky, you will see that fact writ large.
It is also irrefutable and a published finding that many P/CALS do not have timely access to the specialists that you do, and I will add from contacts with hundreds of P/CALS that even when they do, settings are often treated as set or forget, set too aggressively initially, and/or otherwise not optimized for daily/nightly environments/masks or other interfaces used.
Many P/CALS are made to feel or flat-out informed that adjusting settings is illegal or wrong, which leads to much unnecessary suffering as well as constraining survival itself.
My Q&A approach, which I have honed over the last 30 years, often includes considerable titration, and has been validated over the years by RTs, pulmos, CV surgeons, and cardiologists along with PCPs. I also provide and answer any questions about the machine's clinical manual, and work in concert with the person's RT or pulmo if/as desired. I don't believe in black boxes, either, and if I am out of my depth, will say so.
No one need accept my help and everyone that I correspond with can learn more about my credentials, but I don't think it's my place to list them here. I am also very findable on LinkedIn, Google Scholar, ResearchGate, etc.