beaner1
Active member
- Joined
- May 8, 2007
- Messages
- 58
- Reason
- CALS
- Country
- CA
- State
- Alberta
- City
- Redcliff
Hi Stephanie,
I feel so bad for you...but I do know what you're going through...things are pretty tough for our family right now too. I think it's a control issue sometimes - don't know for sure. I have been caring for my husband (my kids help out too) with no outside help - my husband refused for three years now, and it's up and down all the time with his moods, and whether he likes me or not. We've been married almost 25 years, and yesterday he dropped a bomb on me - said I was the worst wife ever, and was only taking care of him for the insurance (certainly not that much - I'll be working till retirement!). He was hospitalized two weeks ago with pneumonia and a heart attack - and is still in there as he now requires 24-7 care and I can't provide it cuz I can't afford to quit my job. He is on morphine now too for pain. Someone mentioned to me that morphine can alter a person's behaviour - is this true? I think too that sometimes the only control PALS have is over their loved ones, and maybe the only way they can deal with what's happening is to take it out on their loved ones - don't know. All I know is how hurtful this is, and how it is difficult to not take it personally. I'm taking the weekend off - maybe a break from all the stress will give me a fresh perspective, and some much needed rest (I hear you about the "tired" part! Never knew I could be this exhausted!) - maybe a break is what you need too. Don't let the games get you down - all you can do is your best and if it's not good enough, or enough then let someone else take over - you don't deserve to be anybody's whipping boy.
Take care,
Beaner
I feel so bad for you...but I do know what you're going through...things are pretty tough for our family right now too. I think it's a control issue sometimes - don't know for sure. I have been caring for my husband (my kids help out too) with no outside help - my husband refused for three years now, and it's up and down all the time with his moods, and whether he likes me or not. We've been married almost 25 years, and yesterday he dropped a bomb on me - said I was the worst wife ever, and was only taking care of him for the insurance (certainly not that much - I'll be working till retirement!). He was hospitalized two weeks ago with pneumonia and a heart attack - and is still in there as he now requires 24-7 care and I can't provide it cuz I can't afford to quit my job. He is on morphine now too for pain. Someone mentioned to me that morphine can alter a person's behaviour - is this true? I think too that sometimes the only control PALS have is over their loved ones, and maybe the only way they can deal with what's happening is to take it out on their loved ones - don't know. All I know is how hurtful this is, and how it is difficult to not take it personally. I'm taking the weekend off - maybe a break from all the stress will give me a fresh perspective, and some much needed rest (I hear you about the "tired" part! Never knew I could be this exhausted!) - maybe a break is what you need too. Don't let the games get you down - all you can do is your best and if it's not good enough, or enough then let someone else take over - you don't deserve to be anybody's whipping boy.
Take care,
Beaner