Blackeyes
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- Jul 7, 2019
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- Reason
- CALS
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- 06/2019
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- CA
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- Swift current
When my husband was diagnosed he told me that when there were things he couldn’t do and he had to rely on his breathing machine and oxygen he wanted my support for his right to chose when he was done.
He’s been bedridden for weeks now and everything on his list has been checked off. Now he wants the promise I gave him to support that decision to be honoured. When I made that promise I was saying it so he would get a damn feeding tube out in. He has the forms and has spoken to the drs and has their support and as much as I see how tired and sad he is I want to say no. And he wouldn’t do it. But that would wrong and selfish. I know this. And I know he’s suffering and any type of movement I do with him seems to send him into distress. Just lifting him in the lift to change his sheets or put him on the commode makes his body shake and hard for him to breath.
They checked his oxygen levels Friday and they were at 74. I’m hoping the new oxygen machine will bring that stat up but it doesn’t matter. For the last 3 days he wants to sit down and go over the last of the financials. We have pretty much taken care of that last Jan. We just have a few final decisions to make. For anyone out there who hasn’t done it yet. One of the smartest things he made me do was move anything we owned into my name so all he has now is his one account. Life insurance... trying to do this while grieving is a lot for one person. Doing it before it needs to be done wasn’t painful and one less thing I have to worry about.
but that’s not where I’m going with this. I promised to support his decision of assisted suicide and now he wants me to honour that and I want to for him I do. I just never thought I would have to. I thought when they legalized it here that it was a good thing. People shouldn’t be made to suffer when there is no cure for them and they are no longer enjoying life. When he was able to get into his wheelchair it was different he could move around and had some control.
But now he just lies in bed and watches tv. He doesn’t any gadgets to help him move around or speak for him. He’s tired and done and I blame covid for a lot of it. Friends unable to visit and talking on the phone isn’t an option anymore. He is in NO WAY a coward. The disease has dictated his life and he will be damned if it decides on his death. He wants to go out on his terms. And he wants to get all that finalized now.
has anyone else thought of it? Knows someone who has gone thru it? What are peoples thoughts on situations such as this?
cindy
He’s been bedridden for weeks now and everything on his list has been checked off. Now he wants the promise I gave him to support that decision to be honoured. When I made that promise I was saying it so he would get a damn feeding tube out in. He has the forms and has spoken to the drs and has their support and as much as I see how tired and sad he is I want to say no. And he wouldn’t do it. But that would wrong and selfish. I know this. And I know he’s suffering and any type of movement I do with him seems to send him into distress. Just lifting him in the lift to change his sheets or put him on the commode makes his body shake and hard for him to breath.
They checked his oxygen levels Friday and they were at 74. I’m hoping the new oxygen machine will bring that stat up but it doesn’t matter. For the last 3 days he wants to sit down and go over the last of the financials. We have pretty much taken care of that last Jan. We just have a few final decisions to make. For anyone out there who hasn’t done it yet. One of the smartest things he made me do was move anything we owned into my name so all he has now is his one account. Life insurance... trying to do this while grieving is a lot for one person. Doing it before it needs to be done wasn’t painful and one less thing I have to worry about.
but that’s not where I’m going with this. I promised to support his decision of assisted suicide and now he wants me to honour that and I want to for him I do. I just never thought I would have to. I thought when they legalized it here that it was a good thing. People shouldn’t be made to suffer when there is no cure for them and they are no longer enjoying life. When he was able to get into his wheelchair it was different he could move around and had some control.
But now he just lies in bed and watches tv. He doesn’t any gadgets to help him move around or speak for him. He’s tired and done and I blame covid for a lot of it. Friends unable to visit and talking on the phone isn’t an option anymore. He is in NO WAY a coward. The disease has dictated his life and he will be damned if it decides on his death. He wants to go out on his terms. And he wants to get all that finalized now.
has anyone else thought of it? Knows someone who has gone thru it? What are peoples thoughts on situations such as this?
cindy
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