alligatorswamp
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- Dec 24, 2014
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- Reason
- Loved one DX
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- US
- State
- VA
- City
- Potomac Falls
Hi Everyone,
My mom was diagnosed with ALS on September 29, 2014. It's moving very fast - she now (very slowly) uses a walker, needs help dressing, toileting, bathing and eating (cutting up food). We just got her a wheelchair for outings that require us to walk more than a half a block or cross the street. Her speech is extremely labored and strangers have an incredibly difficult time understanding her and understanding that she's fine in the mind. She's 65, by the way.
My sister and I can understand her just fine most of the time because we know her. She's always been very particular about her wants and needs but my sister and I can handle this because, yet again, we know her so well and can predict what she's going to say.
Problem is, I am 24 (25 in April) and my sister is 26. I have a full time job, but I can work from home, and my sister will be starting a part time job in January. Mom, my sister and I have decided it's not a good idea for the two of us to take care of her, because we need to have our own lives and can't emotionally handle the full time caregiver roles. She also wants to someone else to take the caregiver role so the time we spend with her is more special.
We have looked at a few assisted living places in Northern Virginia and are not having much luck.
Here are a few requirements:
- Mom can bring her own bed
- Feeding tube is ok (she will need one in a few months)
- My sister and I can stay overnight sometimes
- Easy transition to a nursing home, preferably connected to the assisted living facility
- 1 bedroom
Essentially, we want an accessible apartment with a community and 24/7 service. Does this exist? Does anyone have any suggestions for assisted living facilities in Northern Virginia?
Thank you so much for your help! These forums are incredibly helpful already!
My mom was diagnosed with ALS on September 29, 2014. It's moving very fast - she now (very slowly) uses a walker, needs help dressing, toileting, bathing and eating (cutting up food). We just got her a wheelchair for outings that require us to walk more than a half a block or cross the street. Her speech is extremely labored and strangers have an incredibly difficult time understanding her and understanding that she's fine in the mind. She's 65, by the way.
My sister and I can understand her just fine most of the time because we know her. She's always been very particular about her wants and needs but my sister and I can handle this because, yet again, we know her so well and can predict what she's going to say.
Problem is, I am 24 (25 in April) and my sister is 26. I have a full time job, but I can work from home, and my sister will be starting a part time job in January. Mom, my sister and I have decided it's not a good idea for the two of us to take care of her, because we need to have our own lives and can't emotionally handle the full time caregiver roles. She also wants to someone else to take the caregiver role so the time we spend with her is more special.
We have looked at a few assisted living places in Northern Virginia and are not having much luck.
Here are a few requirements:
- Mom can bring her own bed
- Feeding tube is ok (she will need one in a few months)
- My sister and I can stay overnight sometimes
- Easy transition to a nursing home, preferably connected to the assisted living facility
- 1 bedroom
Essentially, we want an accessible apartment with a community and 24/7 service. Does this exist? Does anyone have any suggestions for assisted living facilities in Northern Virginia?
Thank you so much for your help! These forums are incredibly helpful already!