It is so wonderful to see the support you are getting from everybody here on the forum! This site is amazing! My husband was diagnosed with ALS 4 years ago, it has been very difficult.... FOR ALL that are touched by what he calls "his worse nightmare". At the time we had just had our daughter, she was 4 months old when he was diagnosed, his miracle child, she gives him the the extra push to want to fight! I knew it would be difficult, my husband is a very private person, and it was a fight to get him to accept outside help, it took 3 years. His family (Father and brother) were not supportive at all, actually they made things difficult. My husband closed down at one point, he stopped interacting with the children, stopped communicating, got very angry. My 8 year old daughter stopped talking, my family was concerned for me and the children. I left the house, but I never left my husband, although he felt abandoned and at his lowest point! At the time I had to regroup, for my sake and the children, my husband said he would never forgive me. It all sounds so simple when I type it out, there are so many stories between the lines!
My husband and I are living together now, what changed? he accepted that it was not just his illness, that it affected all of us, that it was not about it being "unfair" for him, that it just was, and we were all going to make the best of it. Most importantly he realized that he had a lot to see, share and that he made a difference! That he was very much alive! That he was loved, and he could love! I kept telling him that I was waiting for "that moment", that moment being something that we would carry with us for life, memories that make a difference!
There is one thing that I have learnt through all of this, that intentions go a long way, keeping your thoughts positive tends to cause positive things to happen to you and those around you, and that communication is key! Understanding that everybody deals differently, that you can not assume what others are feeling or thinking, and you should never have expectations of others, just wishes.
I hope that everything works out for you, stay strong and do not close your doors!
Christina