Kiwi22
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This will be my first time posting in this forum. I'm recently going through a divorce, and one of the main reason was that my in-laws didn't like that fact that my mom was an ALS patient. They were worried about the disease being passed down to my children (if I were to get pregnant), and they were also worried that one day I might be diagnosed with ALS as well.
I was very honest with my husband and my in-laws when we first started discussing about marriage, and I tried my best to explain to them what the disease was about. They didn't seemed to have a problem w/ it and so we went on and proceed w/ the wedding.
However, couple months into our marriage, my in-laws started showing a change in attitude and became very literal about their concerns for my body and the whole ALS thing. At first, my husband seemed very supportive and he would try & communicate with his parents; however, his attitude started changing slowly and eventually started to use my mom's illness against me whenever we run into disagreements (he would say how much pressure he has knowing that I might have ALS but he still married me anyways so I should or shouldn't blahblahblah...).
Although I know this is his strategy to win over me in an argument, I can't help but feel angry & hurt because there was nothing I can say to defend myself against what he said; I cannot argue that I will never be diagnosed w/ ALS and I cannot argue that my child/children will be 100% healthy..
Now a part of me feels relieved that I finally had the courage to call an end to this marriage, but the other part of me feels scared and angry... I'm scared because I want to be loved for who I am but at the same time I'm scared to become that someone's burden...
ALS has taken many valuable things from me including my mom, and now it's still making me suffer from its consequences even though my mom has already left us...
I'm sorry this is kind of long; I'm so overwhelmed with emotion that I don't know how to properly express myself anymore...
I was very honest with my husband and my in-laws when we first started discussing about marriage, and I tried my best to explain to them what the disease was about. They didn't seemed to have a problem w/ it and so we went on and proceed w/ the wedding.
However, couple months into our marriage, my in-laws started showing a change in attitude and became very literal about their concerns for my body and the whole ALS thing. At first, my husband seemed very supportive and he would try & communicate with his parents; however, his attitude started changing slowly and eventually started to use my mom's illness against me whenever we run into disagreements (he would say how much pressure he has knowing that I might have ALS but he still married me anyways so I should or shouldn't blahblahblah...).
Although I know this is his strategy to win over me in an argument, I can't help but feel angry & hurt because there was nothing I can say to defend myself against what he said; I cannot argue that I will never be diagnosed w/ ALS and I cannot argue that my child/children will be 100% healthy..
Now a part of me feels relieved that I finally had the courage to call an end to this marriage, but the other part of me feels scared and angry... I'm scared because I want to be loved for who I am but at the same time I'm scared to become that someone's burden...
ALS has taken many valuable things from me including my mom, and now it's still making me suffer from its consequences even though my mom has already left us...
I'm sorry this is kind of long; I'm so overwhelmed with emotion that I don't know how to properly express myself anymore...
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