My mom was also diagnosed in February 2013. Speech, swallowing, weight loss, and fatigue are her only issues right now. She has always been a "prepare for the future" type and actually gave me a folder years ago with the words "death stuff" written on it. I mean she planned it ALL, before even having symptoms or need to do so. At the time I thought it was morbid, but it is really best to line this stuff up before you need to and while you are well. Right now my dad is obsessed with talking about funeral prep and whatnot. I got angry at first because she isn't dead! She is walking and talking and breathing so let's not plan a funeral. But I realized it is helpful to HIM to know we have all discussed it. Just listening to him and reassuring him that we were on board with the plan helped him to relax. So this weekend we had a difficult discussion about Mom's specifics with ALS. She is agreeing to the PEG-tube. She didn't want it, but after showing her pictures of it and all the info, it wasn't what she thought it was so she is ok with that. We talked about wheelchairs, walkers, breathing machines, etc. She for sure does not want a Trach.
What's funny is that during this I had an epiphany. I said "Mom, you are still YOU and will still BE you. Even if you can't move or speak. So what do YOU want?" What we realized is she's a homebody. She likes to watch TV and read. She always has. So she can enjoy her life in a much more incapacitated state than someone who was very active. That's my opinion anyway. So it's a very personal choice and I think we have to respect the individuality, the dignity and the wishes of the PALS. I know this is so hard. Lots of prayers for you and yours.
Jamie