stu
dels full name is del b denning.
i have a email address for his wife and will pm it to you.
renee his alsa workers email address is in a post further up the page,i have spoken to her on the phone and first contacted her when del needed help.
bruce,dels friend of 19yrs will be able to give you more info,i will pm you his email address but it is his office /work one and he will not be there till tomorrow.
as i have said before del did not want to leave his home as he knew his wife would just leave him where ever and sell of his things.
del and his wife were enstranged some years ago and del had his own home.
his wife started to loose her sight and needed an operation so went to del for help.
del sold his home to pay for his wifes operation ,i am not sure what promises were made on her part but del gave her the remainder of the money to win her back and make her happy.
shortly after this del started getting ill.
the abuse del suffered was mostly verbal abuse,but there was also neglect of care.
he would be left to fend for himself alone in the house most of the time.
she would go off for days or a week leaving him alone,this terrified me as he falls alot.
she would not let him use the kitchen equipment to try to make food for himself,but would not prepare any food for him.
many times she would have friends over to eat but del was left in his room with no food.
she was ashamed of him and the als,did not like him to even go out in the yard for in case the neighbours saw him.
he would go to bed hungry and thirsty alot of the time,this was because it would take several hours to try to get food and drink down.
in the evening his wife would complain and get mad about this so he would just give up.
she is very sly and twofaced,she would be nice to adult protection,his nurse and others.
she would promise to look after del which she did for a few days /week then go back to her old ways.
she would shout at del if anyone interfeared about his complaints and threaten to go back to china or anywhere else so then he would be left to fend for himself or go into a home.
del has told me all his wishes.
he does not want his wife to have control over his care or were he goes.
he did not want his wife to get her hands on his assets and valuable collections,both he and i know the money will not be used for dels care.
dels wife is only interested in money,she has maybe over $100,000 in investments,alot of what she has she got out of del and left him with nothing.
del had a lawyer go to the house a few months back for advice.
the possibility of divorce and other action was discussed,del said he would think the options over but was not sure as legal action would cost too much.
i looked on the net and found out some places that did legal aid and sent him the info.
what he really wanted was someone to have power of attorney so his wife would have no power over him,i could not do that being in the uk and ill also.
the place were del is now looks nice on the internet,but it could be decieving.
in bruces email he said there is lack of care and his things would get stolen.
he also said he maybe moved to a va hospital.
del needs to be were he feels cared for best with his things,this ideally would be back home but i dont think that can happen now.
he needs fulltime care but can not get it at home as his wife is hardly at home.
i am upset by the fact that he has not had his voice machine in nearly 4wks,how is he supposed to communicate what his needs are?
plus the fact his wife has not visited once,well she got what she wanted did,nt she?
so that is the basic details,bruce will probably fill you in more.
i am not sure what can be done but any help is better than nothing.
word of warning,i dont think contacting his wife till you have spoken to del is a good idea. and if you do contact her be carefull.
i know del will be truly greatfull to see you stu and of any help you can give him.
thankyou from the bottom of my heart,i will be forever endebted to you.
