- Joined
- May 9, 2016
- Messages
- 1,529
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 06/2016
- Country
- US
- State
- MN
- City
- Minneapolis
We have kind friends and I have co-workers who ask how Brian is doing. I give my perky answer. "Great for being almost 9 months out from diagnosis. He uses leg braces and a cane and has some weakness in his hands but he is still walking and doing things".
It is TRUE, my perky answer. I really appreciate we have friends who ask.
I often think, but don't say "Great for a guy with a terminal, debilitating illness" or "Great for a guy who knows it only goes downhill from here". I hate to think that way, but sometimes I just do.
Someone kindly asked me today. I gave my polite reply. Then it popped into my head "Brian joined Dignitas yesterday, told me about it, I support his wishes totally but still bust into tears at the kitchen table." Nope, did not say that part.
Almost none months out, we still can't believe this thing happened. I don't say that either.
How's he doing? Still terminal and making the best of each day.
Not looking for advice, just venting a little on how even the kind things can hurt.
It is TRUE, my perky answer. I really appreciate we have friends who ask.
I often think, but don't say "Great for a guy with a terminal, debilitating illness" or "Great for a guy who knows it only goes downhill from here". I hate to think that way, but sometimes I just do.
Someone kindly asked me today. I gave my polite reply. Then it popped into my head "Brian joined Dignitas yesterday, told me about it, I support his wishes totally but still bust into tears at the kitchen table." Nope, did not say that part.
Almost none months out, we still can't believe this thing happened. I don't say that either.
How's he doing? Still terminal and making the best of each day.
Not looking for advice, just venting a little on how even the kind things can hurt.